Monthly Archives: April 2015

Don’t Ask If You Don’t Want the Answer…

There is a funny thing that happens all over our lives… people ask questions and do not like the answers as they are not what they wanted to hear.

You know the questions…

Do you like me?

Do you love me?

Was I good?

Am I pretty?

Do I look fat?

Is my cock big enough for you?

Do you wanna?

No matter who we are… we are asked questions.  Do you want fries with that? Questions come from everywhere and we have a choice to make… do we answer the question and answer it honestly.

I received a cute little meme yesterday from a friend. I would post it here, but it has a picture of little Raven Simone from her days on the Cosby Show and I won’t post kid pics on here… but it says….

DON’T ASK FOR MY OPINION AND GET MADE WHEN I TELL YOU THE TRUTH.

It was sent to me because people will ask for my opinion or seek some answers from me and are surprised because I will give you the honest answer.

Now, I tend to write on chat in a very sexy – provocative – friendly – fun manner. So when I am at the point of being very honest in my answer to something someone asked me about… I will speak (write) plainly.

There is one guy who acts like a creepy single male on chat. No one can stand him. He is not a single guy (as far as we know) but he comes across as a creepy single guy lurking on chat.

Well one night I had had enough of him. He lurks for hours on chat and then will spew some sanctimonious crap meant to belittle someone. He had done it to many. Luckily he had avoided me after one or two comments to me that failed to get a reaction.

Side note… if I don’t like you or want to talk to you on chat or the forums… I ignore you. It is pretty easy to do. I just don’t read your crap, don’t follow what you post, and don’t engage you… fairly easy.

Well, I had gotten tired of the private chats to me of people complaining about him. I told them to ignore him and they just could not.

I guess their ignore people gene isn’t fully developed like mine is. So I made a comment to this person. I said something like this… “Hey, do you realize you come across as a creepy single guy and no one likes you on chat.”

I was hoping for the shock value of that statement in the event he would – I don’t know – stop being a creepy single guy.

He starts in on his sanctimonious crap about how he could prove he was a married man. He could show me profiles of folks who met him. He went on and on and just did not stop. I told him…. First of all, why are you on chat 24/7 if you are married. Do you not want to choose your wife over sitting on chat all day and night. But more importantly, I do not need to talk to those people you suggested. I have no desire to verify you are a married man. I don’t care. I am simply telling you that you are pissing off people who chat here, you are coming off as a creepy single guy, and many refuse to come on chat when you are on and since you never leave chat, you are ruining the fun of chat.

To which he went on to tell me again about how very married he is…

Fully ignoring the fact that I mentioned the issue is how creepy he is coming across. And yes, it was appropriate with the stream of conversation that he was involved in… specifically why chat is so dead all the time…

I have had people ask me questions and here is my general rule of thumb. I will answer your question the first time in the most upbeat manner possible even if I have been asked the question by others hundreds of times. I will address you as if this is the first time I heard this question.

The second time you ask me the SAME question, I will answer you a little less upbeat… I will leave out the extra and just give you the bare answer…

The third time I swear it is all I can do not to rip your head off… I mean seriously… if you cannot possibly listen to what I answered the first time or the second time… you are too stupid for me.

Now the only exception of this is when you ask me questions like – does my cock feel good? Does your pussy want my cock?  You know what I mean… the important questions in life when in a situation where you want to have some fun adventures…

But to ask me what do you think about this particular situation…. and I tell you… and you don’t listen and you ask me again… or you get mad because I haven’t answered the question and you don’t like the answers I gave you….

If you pay attention, you notice that the same people will ask everyone they can the same questions hoping for a different answer or at least the answer they want.

And here is the thing… if you keep getting the same answers… shouldn’t that tell you something…

We have a few people who are on chat doing this all the time… We try to impart some decent advice that will actually allow them to prepare for the ‘realities’ of swinging without the surprise element most of us painfully experienced.

We try to give examples of our experiences rather than tell them what they should do… but they tell us that it won’t happen that way…

I can’t tell you how many newbies of swinging we were their first full swap. I can’t tell you how many were so nervous thinking of how the night will go that they got so upset that it didn’t meet their expectations. And it wasn’t because the sex wasn’t good… it was because they thought it would begin a certain way and they would be able to do all 20 items on their checklist… and they came before they could do more than four.

Or they got so excited and nervous they drank too much… or even if they didn’t drink too much or at all he couldn’t get it up because he is so nervous…

Or the MRS felt weird afterwards and started to close off… or one of them like one of us more than the other and they feel guilty about it…

Hell, anything can happen and it usually does…

It usually hurts when swinging reality slaps you in the face…

Well, it just goes on to say that some people ask for advice and don’t really want to hear the truth no matter how nicely you present it to them. I think it would be easier to preface each answer with “Just so I am clear, what answer are you hoping I give?”

I think that would make a lot of the angst we all feel when we are in this situation go away… or at least lessen… we can tailor our answers to meet their expectations… water down the truth and do an injustice to others who are listening and want to ask the same question…

So what do you do? Lie, manipulate the answer to make it easier to accept, or tell the truth and hope for the best…

For me, I will continue to be honest with them. I can’t fix stupid… I don’t want to try… but I will be the first one to tell them “Told you so!”

Hope you are enjoying your sexually social adventure….

Sophia

Does Anyone Really Believe That Line?

On chat, on the forums, and in person we hear some people say a version of this statement – and I emphasize a VERSION of this statement… I have heard so many versions of this and so have others… “I am only in the lifestyle for my wife, I am not interested in getting laid.”

Wanna call bullshit with me?

I mean seriously. I have to wonder if anyone believes this… you, your spouse, the people you spout this nonsense too…..

You sound stupid. You sound like you are in denial. You are in fact denial. You are denying your very basic desires and I do not understand why?

Let’s see if I can break this down in an attempt to understand this issue a bit better….

You and your wife decide to swing.

You tell your wife you do not care if you get laid.

Let’s stop here… Why did you start swinging?

I have and so have others heard “My wife wants to explore her bi-side.”

Well, then let her go and play with women alone. Not an option? Why not? You say she won’t be safe. Well, if it is just two women… you can meet the other woman before hand… but let’s ask this question here… if you don’t think your wife will be safe playing with another woman…. why are you swinging? Why are you putting you and your wife out there if you feel there will be a number of large risks to her safety?

That is not good for you to let her find a girl to have a ‘friendship’ with that she can also suck some pussy with…. you want to be involved…

So you present yourself as a couple looking for a single female to play with.. again, so your wife can explore her bi-side… Why then do you want to participate if this is for your wife and you don’t really care if you get laid?

Why then, are you upset that you cannot get hard when with your wife and another woman who is there by your own admission to allow your wife explore her bi-side and you are not interested in getting laid?

You are upset because you want to be hard, you want to fuck the other woman, you want to get laid.

However, you have lied to yourself and your spouse and everyone else you have told this too…

And for what purpose?

If you cannot be honest with yourself, you feel guilt when the two sides of you battle.

If you cannot be honest with yourself or your spouse… well this is the beginning of marital discord. Yeah, the same guilt that keeps you from getting hard or however it manifests itself will remain and in fact, get worse in you and between you two.

If you cannot be honest with your spouse about how you REALLY feel and how much you want this… because you do not think your wife will understand… buddy, you have got some major issues happening in your marriage…

Gotta ask why her desires with the lifestyle are more important than yours…. or why you would want to continue this type of relationship… Now, I am not saying divorce her… I am talking about being honest for possibly the first time in your life about what you want sexually. I mean seriously… you are a swinger… why can’t you embrace the fact you are a swinger and fucking swing!

How fair are you being to those you want to meet, meet, or try to fuck?

And come on, if the other woman wants you, are you really going to say… “Sorry, I really don’t want to get laid.”

Got to admit here, the few guys who have said that line to me… that they are only in this for their wife and her bi enjoyment… were lying to me… first of all.. we (the other female and I) hardly played if at all… she was more interested in fucking my hubby and he fucked me…. and wanted to do so again and again…

Let’s be honest here… If you want to fuck someone… let them know… We really don’t need to hear the lies that you think will make you feel better… just be honest.

Say it to yourself out loud…

I WANT TO FUCK YOU.

IT IS OKAY THAT I WANT TO FUCK YOU.

MY WIFE WANTS TO FUCK YOUR HUSBAND. I WANT TO FUCK YOU.

Come on everyone, embrace the truth. It is okay to want to fuck other people. You are not suddenly ‘a better person’ because you ‘don’t really want to get laid’ but place both of you in the position to be naked with other people.

If you want to be a swinger than learn to accept the fact that other swingers are okay with you wanting to fuck others..

If you just want to watch others having sex and not participate then be honest about why…. don’t hide behind your wife’s bi-exploration.

Cuz no one believes what you are saying… not even the guys who say the same damn thing…

Hope you are honest on your sexually social adventure… the rest of us appreciate it!

Sophia

House Parties Are Like A Buffet….

Sometimes when I am in the shower blot topics come to mind and if I am lucky… the entire blog post writes itself in my head before I turn off the water.

I have mentioned a bunch of times that I love house parties. I love the opportunity to meet many people in one setting and sample a bit of what they are like.

Kinda like a buffet if you will….

Before a house party or buffet you will peruse the list of attendees or menu offerings.

You look them both over and decide the same things…

  • what is the cost
  • what is offered
  • does anything appeal to you
  • how far away it is
  • in some cases you have to make reservations – sometimes you just drop on by….
  • if you travel you have to look at other activities nearby or if on an overnight trip… lodging…. I mean come on, could that buffet be worth traveling????

See, a house party and buffet require the same basic considerations…

Now, if there is something you see that appeals to you..  you may check it out a bit further as in going to their profile or googling how to make that particular dish you are interested in…

You may send an email to find out more details… to both the restaurant and the profile you are interested in meeting…

Or you may just arrive and be your very best self…. jump in with both feet and enjoy what you find…

Once you arrive to the house party and you arrive at the buffet… you have to realize this important step… just because the other guests and food are present…doesn’t mean they will come to you… even in a buffet, you have to get up and go to the food…

Same is true for the house party… just because you arrived doesn’t mean everyone will come to you and want you…

Just because the menu sounds awesome at the buffet doesn’t mean the words and the food match perfectly…

And we all know that some who claim are ‘easy-going’ are not… those who are secure are not… and those who are the age they say they are… are not…

Just as we know that sometimes the food shown on the website is not how it looks after sitting in the buffet line for hours….

And those pictures from 1988 you have posted on your site… well… yeah… you may not be as ‘fresh’ as you think…

When you go to a house party and you think the guests will be like their pictures, their profile, their texts, and their phone calls… and you meet in person… and they are creepy, assholes, bitchy, or just mind-numbing boring… you can decide to move on…

Similar to the buffet, you tried the roasted chicken and it is dried and tasteless, you can go back and try the sausages or the mounds of succulent mashed potatoes with cream and butter….

You can keep going back to the buffet or you can make your way around the room until you find a couple you hit it off with right away… You can enjoy the variety without making a commitment to someone you just do not like…

There is always that other aspect that oddly enough many swingers are afraid to admit… that they have sex with other swingers…

House parties allow you to have sex with someone you think you may want a friendship with… but test out the sex to make sure you are compatible. Nothing like hitting it off with a person or couple and all of you thinking  this is going to be so wonderful only to find out they lack adventure in sex… that instead of a wide selection of spices and flavors… these swingers have very vanilla sex..

I gotta tell you, there is nothing wrong with making sure the sex and the conversation excite you… there is nothing wrong with making sure that you enjoy yourself..

And there is nothing wrong with wanting to have it all and walking on when you don’t…

There is power in knowledge and happiness when you put that knowledge into action. No one tells you to stick to the wall during a party. No one tells you that you cannot talk to others… you decide that for yourself. Just as you decide whether or not you should continue to force a conversation with someone who doesn’t want to put forth the effort.

You are in control of your sexually social adventure and when you remember that you are able to take what you want and need from this adventure because you actually received those wants and needs.

Just in case you are wondering… there is nothing wrong with attending a party and just watch. There is nothing wrong with going to the party to find people to go on a ‘date’ with or play at another time or location. There is nothing wrong with fucking someone at a party and not having anything more to do with them. There is nothing wrong with how you do a house party…

Just go out and DO!

Hope you are enjoying your sexually social adventure… I am

Sophia

When Two Men Find Pleasure – A Woman’s Story – Part Three

From the last part of the story….

I walk from the chair to a bag we have… a bag of toys… a bag of ‘supplies’ and I start pulling items out of the bag and place them on the bed and on the night stands… I let the guys watch for a moment or two what I am doing… then I take a peek at them… their eyes are following my actions… looking at the objects I brought out… moans slip from both of them… a look of desire… acute desire is written over their faces… they want what I brought out and they want it now….

I had the biggest smile on my face… I was going to have a great deal of fun tonight… as if I hadn’t already enjoyed myself to the point of dehydration… but this night was about all of us having more fun exploring what we wanted and looking at these men… I knew they wanted… and wanted a lot…

I grab a bottle a lube and placed some on both hands… I told the men in my most dominate and sexy voice possible to lay on their sides facing each other… they happily complied… I began by grabbing those nice ass cheeks… now it was difficult to make sure I was doing the same to both… hell who am I kidding… it was difficult holding myself back.. I wanted to jump ahead of the game and do it all and quickly, my attention was all over the place.. I closed my eyes and took a deep breath… all the while moving my hands over their ass cheeks… closer and closer to their creases. My goodness were their asses hot… nice firm asses… I am now sitting between them near their thighs… their hard cocks were right in front of me… I could see their excitement and I could smell their arousal.. holy fuck was I turned on…

Chase reached out and took Jack’s cock into his hand and began stroking the length. Jack returned the favor to Chase as I began circling their holes. Both men moved their legs to allow me more access and I swear to all that is good in the world I was nearly coming apart at the seams…

I add more lube on my fingers and begin pressing into them… I see and hear them taking a deep breath of pleasure at the same time… One finger from each hand is inside the men… pressing forward… pulling back… moving in a steady rhythm as the men stoke each other’s cocks and pull on their balls. I slide my fingers out and add more lube as I slide two fingers into each of them..

Both men let a moan escape and I begin to speed up my movements inside them… My pussy is dripping wet making a mess on the two butt plugs I have between my legs.. It is good lube I guess… I add some lube to one plug and insert it into Chase’s ass. I hear his deep rumbling moan… I see his eyes light up with desire… and I am so eager to move on to Jack… to build his desire too, if it is even possible to do at this time…

Jack moves on his hands and knees allowing me great access to his ass… I put the butt plug down and decide to take a different approach… While on his hands and legs, Jack positions himself over Chase’s cock and begins sucking it hard and fast.. I insert a toy in me that will allow me to peg Jack’s desirable ass. I turn on the vibrator and we both enjoy the sensations as I set the dildo to the edge of his hole… slowly I breach the opening and I am sliding deep inside him. I grab onto Jack’s hips to keep my balance and begin to pound out a steady rhythm in his ass.

Jack still sucking on Chase’s cock pulls the butt plug from his ass and inserts his fingers in its stead. Chase and Jack are loudly announcing their mutual pleasure. I am in absolute heaven and it looks like Chase is feeling the same.

Jack removes his fingers from Chase’s ass and begins to look around the room… I anticipate what he is needing and pull a condom from under the pillow. Amazingly, little change in the pegging happens and I continue to fuck Jack while he places a condom on his straining cock.

Jack moves Chase a bit to straighten him out in front of him and lifts his legs up to bring his ass in full view. Chase happily helps get in position and whispers out ‘holy fuck’ as Jack slides into his ass.

I sit back and think of the first time I had sex and the thrill of having my first… My first bit of oral sex done on me… my first bit of oral sex done on someone else… male and female.. I remember the first cock sliding in for the very first time… I remember how incredible it felt among the discomfort that also happened… nothing beats the first time no matter what that first time is…

I see all of that on Chase’s face. It was a slide show of all his experiences to date… and this one, it was a beautiful experience of pleasure and yes.. no matter how much lube and preparation you do… a bit of pain.

I do believe Jack’s cock is larger than the dildo Chase and I usually use. Jack lets out a sigh of satisfaction. I can tell he is enjoying my husband’s ass. Feeling the tightness as he slides all the way in Chase’s ass. Feeling the loss of the tightness when he pulls out.

I slide out of Jack’s ass at this point so I can stand back and watch Jack fucking my husband. Oh how I have wanted to see this and say that for so long. I wanted to see another man fuck my husband’s ass. To see the pleasure of the moment. The freedom of inhibitions as they just enjoy themselves. I mean seriously enjoy the freedom and the sensations….

Oh how fucking wet am I right now watching. It is incredible hearing their skin slapping against each other. Jack’s groans from his efforts and Chase’s moans receiving the hard thrusts…

There is a part of me that is so jealous. I want so much to see this happen every night. I want more of this and the night has really just begun.

Jack pulls out of Chase. He bends down and gives Chase’s cock a few hard sucks and then tells me to ride Chase. I eagerly head over to my husband as Jack heads to the bathroom. I hear water running as I slide down Chase’s hard shaft… impaling my pussy… my breasts in Chase’s mouth and hands…

Jack enters the room again, grabs another condom from under the pillow… slathers some lube on his fingers and moves behind me… OMG, my pussy is clenching in anticipation. Jack’s fingers are rimming my ass… one softly enters my ass and I buck back on his finger…. Jack laughs and asks if I need a lot of encouragement.. humor lacing his voice.

I let out a moan of disappointment when he removes his finger… but that moan was quickly replaced when I felt his very hard cock enter my ass…

Oh, let the fun times begin…..

Hope you are enjoying this little adventure… I promise I was going to write about something else… But I really need to see where this ends up… Enjoy!

Sophia

P.S. Sorry about spelling and grammar mistakes… but I am so fucking horny right now… gotta take care of it instead of proofing this post… LOL I’ll edit later.

When Two Men Find Pleasure – A Woman’s Story – Part One and Part Two

This story was in a previous post. I was asked to make it a solo post and add to the post by several folks. And it was a good mix of male and females asking for more of this story…

Here is the original part….

I have a secret turn on that is not really that secret for me…..I am a bisexual woman and no that is not the secret….I love watching bisexual threesomes and guy/guy porn…..And for the record…the bisexual threesomes are MMF….Here is a story of stemming from this fantasy of mine…..

Sophia and Chase were headed to their local swinger club….it was Saturday night and they had a hotel room for the after party play and they were really hoping to have some fun at the club and after….Their expectations were to find one or more people to play with while keeping their adventures wide open. For Sophia, this is the way she has to do her adventure….keeping her mind open and enjoy come what may….

The music was thumping to some great dance tunes and she felt herself dancing in her chair….Chase had gone to get a drink and while he was gone a very hot man approached her….his approach was respectful and a bit timid with an odd mix of confidence….yes, a contradiction, but that is what made this man so appealing…he was beyond what one would expect….and that really accounted for much of his hotness….yes, hotness is not just looks but a combination of looks and personality…confident but not expecting….sweet but not shy….forward but respectful….smiling like he knows how to please, but willing to be told how to please the lady in his life….for that moment….

He asks if he can wait here while ‘my man’ gets a drink….I nod yes with a smile….He introduces himself as Jack and asks politely my name….Sophia I tell him and my man is Chase….He looks over at Chase who noticed his approach to our table and nods to him. Chase nods back with a smile and all is good….

He shares that he is a single male and would love to spend time tonight getting to know both me and Chase…..that last bit said with a smile….I figure I might as well ask him what I really want to know….with a smile I ask, “How well would you like to get to know Chase?”

Not a heartbeat passes without him responding, “I am bi, I would love to get to know both of you very intimately.”

That simply turned me on instantly and I was wet, hot, and needing to let him know this….but before I could he whispers to me “If you get that excited by what I said, then wait until I take his cock into my mouth and bring him such great pleasure.”

This was a first….a single man is turning me on by telling me how he wants to suck my man’s cock…..and please… he can’t stop telling me what he wants to do to both of us…..my pussy was throbbing at this time and it was needing some release….I moved a bit on my seat to get some relief down there….and Jack laughed, his dimples showing and that damn sexy voice….whispers…”I would love to bring you some much needed release”.

I couldn’t help it….I let out a moan-sigh and closed my eyes picturing him bringing me and my man release and my legs started to twitch in response to my pressure I was placing on my clit….Jack chuckled and moved close to my ear “What do you say we invite Chase into this party and move to a place a bit more quiet to get to know each other?”

I opened my eyes and Chase was back at the table with a smile on his face, he placed the drinks down and shook Jack’s hand….Chase whispered near my ear….”Are you turned on right now Sophia?”

“Oh yes I am….Jack here wants to get to know us intimately….me and you both…as in he wants to suck your cock”……

Jack has a killer grin on his face and no apology whatsoever is seen in his face or heard in his voice….”Yes, Sophia that is right, I find you both hot and would love to see what happens.”

I am amazed that he has no fear that Chase is a straight man who ‘fears’ a bi guy indicating he is hot and attracted to him or that he wouldn’t haul off and slug him……..of course, I know that Chase has never been with a man before, but he has always said if the right person came along at the right time he would be up for exploring this side of our adventure…..can it really be tonight and with Jack that this happens….I can only hope….but how did Jack know to approach us with this, tonight?

The music is still thumping and one song after another plays that I swear are my favorites….I grab Jack’s hand and ask him to dance with me….He smiles and takes me out on the dance floor….we are dancing and laughing and it feels so damn good….a slow song starts and Jack pulls me into his arms as we dance much slower and then he kisses me…..

His kisses are incredible….and as much as I don’t want to have the kiss stop, it does….he places kisses across my cheek until he reaches my ear…He says in that damn sexy voice of his that he really would love to get somewhere a bit quieter so we can all talk and get to know each other but has to wonder if Chase will be upset if he flirts with him in a public space like this….as it would not do good to have him upset if others see a guy touching him in any way…

I couldn’t express how much his consideration for Chase’s feelings meant to me…at least verbally, so I kissed him and kissed him good. I let him know that I was very attracted to him in many ways and with that kiss I felt my panties soak, my pussy quiver, and my nipples tighten….I needed this man to take me right now and I told him so……..

“You need to come back to our hotel room right now…I need you in so many ways tonight….we will start out with heading to the room and see what happens from there….and so much better happen…I don’t think I have wanted someone so soon after meeting them as I have you.”

Jack laughed and then closed his mouth over mine and kissed me into oblivion……I swear I was having an incredible orgasm from kissing and dancing with him….of course his leg had been between mine and I was riding it hard, hitting my clit in the most perfect manner…I shattered during that kiss and left a huge wet spot all over his leg…I was too far gone to care….and he didn’t seem to care one bit…in fact, he seemed rather proud of what just happened.

I can barely walk to Chase and our table after what happened. I hold onto Jack’s arm until we arrived. I look up at Chase and tell him that we are going to the hotel room right now and fucking this man until none of us can walk, think, or breath anymore……

My plan was to make sure we all had some time to talk and get to know each other before the actual sex started….and you know what they say about the best laid plans………..well…..

Chase opens the hotel room and enters first followed by me and then Jack. My heart was racing, my breasts were full from desire, and my pussy was wet and quivering…. and the possibility of seeing my husband with another man….

My heart and my brain competed with each other at this moment… I am so turned on by men having sex together and this was a dream come true. I needed to take a moment to gather my thoughts and I was preparing to head to the bathroom…. before I did… I needed to say something to ‘my men’…

“This is a dream come true for me… but only if you both truly want each other as much I want both of you…. this has to be more for you than doing it for me… I want your passion unleashed because it is your passion for each other… not for a show for me…”

With that, I gathered a little bag and headed off to the bathroom with a kiss.

Once in the bathroom I took a deep cleansing breath…. I needed to find that heart rate that was somewhere between turned on yet calm enough to focus on the moment… it was taking some time to find that spot because I was so damn turned on by what was about to happen…. what seemed like hours was only a few minutes before I was ready to join my men….

I was not expecting what I saw when I entered the bedroom, but I was so very happy by what I saw… one small light was left on, otherwise the room was dimmer… just the hint of light and shadows increasing the beauty of what was before me…

Jack, standing behind Chase had his hands circling towards his chest unbuttoning Chase’s shirt… each button was slowly pushed out of the button hole and I could tell Chase was turned on by this slow and seductive act. I remained just outside the bathroom door transfixed by what I was observing….

As Jack pushed another button out of its hole, he kissed the back of Chase’s neck. He moved the shirt further open and moved down to the next button in a slow and sensual manner… I could hear Chase’s breathing increase in passion with each kissed placed and each button opened….

Finally, Jack released the last button and he slowly slid the shirt off Chase’s shoulders and back… what a glorious sight that was to behold… I noticed Chase holding his breath as Jack slowly moved his hands down Chase’s arms along with the shirt. Jack then brought his hands slowly up Chase’s back, exploring each inch of his body at the same time.

My nipples were so hard, to the point of being sore from want, Jack’s, Chase’s and mine. There was nothing I wanted more right now than to cum and damn, it appeared I was about ready… I clenched those muscles together and released and clenched and released a few more times… I held onto the door frame for support as I quietly came hard from what I witnessed.

Chase was still facing away from Jack, his cock straining from behind his jeans… It looked painful in the position it was in… but it was a sign that all was good, that Jack was the right man to introduce Chase to passions he has felt were not possible… as he is not attracted to men….but then again, maybe he was only attracted to this one man…. his body seemed to be reacting to all of Jack’s kisses and touches… his nipple hard, his cock painfully large and straining with a wet spot forming on his pants, his breathing hard and fast, but it was his hands that told me how much he wanted Jack….

His hands had found their way behind his back. Chase was touching Jack where ever he could… as if he needed to feel for himself that Jack was bringing him these pleasurable moments… bringing him fulfillment as no other man has.

Jack reached around and stroked Chase’s cock and I swore the cock jumped in response…Chase let out a moan of pure pleasure from this simple act. Jack cupped his fingers around the outline of the cock and grabbed a hold of it the best he could, placing pressure on the beautiful and straining organ.

I couldn’t see if Jack was as hard as Chase was because he was tight up against Chase’s backside. My assumption held that he was as he began to move his hips in a steady rhythm against Chase….

Jack’s other hand came to the front of Chase’s jeans and began to unbutton. I held my breath in anticipation…. and it appears so did Chase. He wanted this as much as I did…. Tears began to form in my eyes to see my man wanting this pleasure as much as I… his passion building for this man as did mine. We could finally share a man in every sense of the word…. suck his cock together… explore his body… take him as he could take us….

Jack was now slowly unzipping Chase’s jeans and a groan of pleasure came from both men at the same time… how on earth could this be any hotter for me… I could feel my need building up again… demanding release right now…. I began circling my clit with my finger… watching the men enjoying themselves and a thought came to my head… did they even know I was watching… not one of them had looked over at me or given me any other bit of acknowledgement…. My legs were growing shaky and I slowly inched my way down to the floor as to not interrupt them… luckily my view was still unobstructed…. I got comfortable as I sat on the floor… my legs spread, my hips tilted in the best position to bring myself to an orgasm… my eyes fixed on the guys… but my finger finding the source of my personal pleasure….

Now that Jack had Chase’s jeans opened… he slid them down to the floor…. still behind Chase, he chuckled as he noticed Chase’s choice of undergarment…. None… He was without any other fabric under his jeans so his cock was standing straight out in anticipation of what was to cum….

Jack worked himself back up Chase’s body by kissing his legs, thighs, and his ass…. oh did he kiss Chase’s ass… first one cheek and then the other… every inch of his sexy as was explored… from the outside in… he worked and worked his way to the center… to the crease… to where his hole was… first Jack used his finger to explore that crease until it was necessary to use both hands to open the crease up enough to use his tongue to continue his exploration….

Chase was alternating between holding his breath and breathing out moans of pleasure… I knew the exact moment when Jack’s tongue reached his the part of his ass that was most sensitive… that craved his tongue… and Jack did not disappoint…. Chase screamed out “FUCK YES!” and grabbed his cock, stroking the weeping organ hard and fast…. Jack’s face was buried in Chase’s crease and pleasure was the only expression on his face….

I was not immune to the pleasure the men were giving and receiving… My clit was swollen and sensitive and to the point where I was going to explore…. I tried so hard to remain quiet, but I couldn’t… I was cumming so hard from what they were doing and let out my own moans of pleasure….instead of disturbing them.. it increased their pleasure….

After the most amazing orgasms of my life watching the men… I slumped against the wall. Chase was watching my reaction and I could tell he was turned on by how my body was responding to their pleasure. I was torn between staying back and watching and joining in with the two men.

My question of what to do was answered when Chase told me to come to him. I walked over on shaking legs. I stood in front of them both and with my on Chase’s cock began kissing Jack. Knowing both of these men were turned on by these events made me even wetter… Chase had his thumb on my clit and was slowly rubbing it back and forth and around and around. My legs were weakening even more than they were…

Jack’s mouth brought me great pleasure… man could he kiss… He reached around Chase and found my breast and more importantly my nipple. My poor nipple was so hard and so eager for the sensations Jack was giving me…

Jack’s cock was straining again Chase’s ass and he began flexing his hips to bring some friction between the two of them…

While I loved what we were doing… my legs were so soft from the pleasure I needed to have these men in a very different position…. I broke the kiss with Jack… and turned slowly and began walking towards the bed… My hand was still on Chase’s cock… but sadly his hands were no longer pleasing my clit and pussy. The men dutifully followed me to the bed….

When we finally made the few feet to the bed… I pushed Chase down and crawled up his body until I could straddle his delectable mouth… he moaned and wrapped his arms around my hips… his tongue beginning to tease my clit… his hands gripping my ass…. fingers exploring my opening… I can’t help myself and let out a moan that left no question about how turned on I was and how much I needed this night…

I look behind me and Jack is taking Chase’s cock into his mouth… savoring the entire shaft… his hands are tugging lightly on Chase’s balls… his mouth now taking the full length of Chase’s cock in… his eyes alight with satisfaction…

My neck is straining to watch all the action happening behind me… I pull my pussy away from Chase’s mouth and change my position… back on Chase’s mouth so I can watch… Chase laughs and knows just how much I need to see… he can feel the juices flowing from me just from the excitement.

Jack smiles while sucking cock and moves himself a bit more on the bed… in perfect location of my hands so I can stroke his incredible cock… which of course I do… gladly… I have my hand on his cock and lean down so Jack and I can both take turns sucking on the cock… I am nearly cumming…. I am holding back and Chase tells me to release… no waiting… I swear to all that is good that my listened to him and I unleashed my fount of pleasure straight in Chase’s mouth… his mouth wide open and so very eager to taste all of me….

I am exhausted from all my pleasure and roll off the bed to get a drink and to clean up a bit… when I return… Chase and Jack are on the bed… 69 style enjoying each other’s cocks… fingers gripping asses… fingers exploring the crease… fingers exploring openings.. gently at first… with more desire building… I am sitting in a chair off to the side just watching the sexual beauty of this moment… I had visions of what this would be like, but never did I think it was going to be this hot…

Chase is about to cum… I can tell… he moves away from Jack’s mouth… he needs a break for a while… he wants to wait as long as he can… he wants to be brought to the edge but deny himself the pleasure for now… but he is still enjoying the beauty of Jack’s cock…

Jack is thrusting his hips into Chase’s mouth and I cannot even begin to describe how hot that is… love seeing his mouth being fucked… Jack pulls his cock out of Chase’s mouth and begins to rub his cock across Chase’s balls… between his legs… in and out… mimicking what I know will happen shortly…

I walk from the chair to a bag we have… a bag of toys… a bag of ‘supplies’ and I start pulling items out of the bag and place them on the bed and on the night stands… I let the guys watch for a moment or two what I am doing… then I take a peek at them… their eyes are following my actions… looking at the objects I brought out… moans slip from both of them… a look of desire… acute desire is written over their faces… they want what I brought out and they want it now….

Hope you like  your sexually social adventure and all the doors it can open as much as I do….

Sophia

Sometimes I Just Don’t Get It!

Friday there was a post on a site we are on that made me wonder WTF? The male half of the profile started a thread. He was going on about men hiding behind their wives on their profiles. Now, I am fully behind the title of the thread… men shouldn’t hide behind their wives as in have a few pictures men… be proud of yourself. Present yourself to those of us women who want to meet you… you know the premise… have pics of both of you… if you expect both of us to want to meet both of you…

Pretty stinking simple if you ask me…

Well, this particular male half was very much in shape, very much into exercise and healthy (vegetarian) eating… and he felt he deserved to be in the limelight. That he deserved to be seen in the same light as women… and men shouldn’t hide behind a nipple, breast or female ass pic… they should go out and show off their bodies too… as long as they didn’t look and well… I can’t remember the entire generalization he made of men in the lifestyle… but anyways… I can’ t go back and look at the thread because… well I will tell you that later…

There are so many threads on the forum on this very topic… however, this particular man sounding very angry that when he presents himself no one seems to care… they want to see the female half…

Well, that is true. Man would rather have pictures of women unless they admit to being bisexual or at least looking to someday possibly venturing into exploring their bi side… they are mostly interested in women’s pics. Then there is the fact that more views are seen when female is on the main profile pic. Again many men are looking at the profiles… more than just the women… even if the women are bisexual or bi something or other…

However, this man made the mistake of generalizing that women don’t have much to do with the profile… yet, many people in that thread mentioned that the woman are just as involved as the men or more than the men… as it is in my case…

Then he came back to say that he is very upset that he gives his phone number as well as his wife’s number but the other couple only wants to talk with the Mrs.

I wrote the following response after his latest whining about the texting and such being more focused on his wife not him…. I just couldn’t resist.

I have read your profile and peeked at your pics that you have open. I am a little confused as to why you are so angry or at least appear angry on the forums. I have to admit it is not setting a good first impression. 

I am not going to pick apart your profile or choice of pictures. But I will have to say that I only ventured to your profile after reading your forum thread and posts to satisfy my curiousity if my assumptions were correct. And they were. 

You cannot generalize people in the lifestyle to be one way or another. I found many things in your posts people could find offensive. Now don’t worry… I am not upset…or offended… I just find that people who show their anger that things aren’t going their way have failed to understand a very important fact… in all honesty… swinging ain’t all about you… it is how you can adapt to the person you want to fuck. Or friend. Or be nice to at swinger events. Or whatever your end game is. 

I run the profile for us. I am more often seen in the forums and on chat than my husband. I am more than wililng to focus on the man and not give a shit about the woman and I am listed as bi. In fact, I 99.9% of the time focus on the men of the profile… yes sir… it is the men I like to focus on even if there are millions of Mrs pics and only 5 pics of the guys… and yes, there has to be pics of the guy…. 

I will give my phone number as well as my husbands but I WILL NEVER BE THE FIRST TO TEXT YOU. 

Does not matter how long I have known you… I will rarely text you first. If you and I speak of men in general want to have a texting relationship with me… you HAVE to text me first. 

If we meet in public for a date or party or whatever… and you want to talk to me, play with me, whatever… you must make the first move. I will do all I can to let you know that I am more than happy to talk or play with you… but you must make the first move… 

After that… all bets are off…. 

But I need to know that a man will let me know he wants me and can make the first move… or I will pass them by… 

I respect everyone’s rules, preferences, or whatever you want to call them… but I expect others to respect mine as well. How does that happen if you are not aware that others do things a bit differently than you…. 

But I will tell you… your posts are coming across as angry and bitter… You are not going to be swinging long or having fun swinging until you can let go of the unrealistic expectations you have that are causing you to be angry. 

People are not perfect. People will not fit into your preconceived notions of what they should do or say… 

You have to be willing to adapt… 

And no, adapting is not the same as taking one for the team … It means looking at the reality and see where you can fit into that reality and be okay with the decision… 

Just my opinion for what it is worth… 

Sophia

So what did I see in his profile that I hinted at? What about his pictures?

His pictures… he had a picture of his lunch… some vegetarian plate… a couple pics of how many miles he ran, and some other random items that have to do with exercise….there is one picture of Mr and Mrs together… but you only see their arms and chest… they were snuggles up together so you can see the light and dark contrast of their skin… but that is it… Nothing that you can really see about their entire body or face… I understand the not showing face on the main pics… but to show just a fraction of your body…..

Well, that is where my problem/issue/confirmed assumption comes in…

He was willing to ‘yell’ at others for hiding behind his wife… and that is what he did… but not just his wife… his veggie lunch, his not related to swinging or showing what you look like but rather wraps for your sore ankles or wrists…

He hid behind other pictures and failed to show off what he yelled at us all on the thread…. he claimed he was so dang wonderful that we should all be drooling… I am sorry… but veggie pics and scorecards don’t really support your claims…

Then you read the profile and hear about how wonderful he is… and remember how he doesn’t want to hide behind his wife…

Basically, his profile stated that his wife is sexually particular due to a low sex drive…

I am gonna clue you all in… this is his way of saying… more than likely folks… she ain’t gonna play…

And if you think I am reading things into this that are not there…. well, a few sentences later he mentions how he plays by himself…

Which is code for my wife really doesn’t know that I am swinging and I would rather just cheat on her…

Or it could mean… I really don’t have a wife and using the couple profile to hook you into wanting this hot, in shape vegetarian….

Either way… I am right that there was something not quite kosher about him and his profile and the set up he has…

How do I know that?

After I posted my post I included above… and received 6 likes in less than 30 minutes…

He deleted his thread when he deleted his account.

I was not the only person who was honest with him in a nice manner.  And I was nice about it… but don’t you dare come on a thread and scream at people being so bad for doing something you are doing yourself.

Then when you did not have the responses come you wanted… change your rant…

And then delete your thread and profile because you were found out to be a bit of a fraud…

For Pete’s sake… think about what you are going to write before you do…

What I wrote in my post was very true…. swinging ain’t all about you… he couldn’t understand that…

He wanted everyone to want him… and didn’t want to do any work getting them to want them… in fact… there were so many things he wrote that made it difficult to want to like him..

I predicted he wouldn’t be swinging long… if you are going to delete an account you just paid for…. because you aren’t getting your way… you won’t last very long…

Your attitude will follow you around even if you change sites…

Hope you are enjoying your sexually social adventure more than he did….

Sophia

Understanding Double Standards… part four

We all know that many in the lifestyle think that nearly all women who swing are doing it for their bisexual desires to come out and play. And for many, they do enjoy the fun of playing with other women.

The double standard I am talking about today is about bisexual play of men.

This is where if you cannot stand to think about men enjoying bisexual play you may want to leave the blog post.

I am serious. So many men have a fear of reading about bisexual play because they are so fucking straight….

And yet, I cannot tell you how many men declare their straighthood to the public (swinging public in particular) but will when probing a little deeper – pun intended… they state that they like ass play… as if by admitting that they will somehow appear less manly.

OMG!

Seriously… OMG! How can you say that with a serious face. I know when you tell me this on chat, forums, text, or however you let me know… I Fucking Laugh Hard.

Why?

Because it is usually said in some version of this…. I am straight, but I do like to have a woman and only a woman play with my ass.

As if grabbing a man’s ass cheeks will make them gay.

As if running a finger around his ass with make him gay.

As if inserting a finger in his ass will make him gay.

As if inserting a toy in his ass will make him gay.

As if fucking (pegging) his ass will make him gay.

And if all those things makes him wonder what it would be like if a man does it to him….

It does not make him gay.

He has sex with women, the proper label is bi-sexual. Actually at that point he may be bi-curious.

But even if he does decide he wants to play with men while he is swinging with his spouse… why is that a problem… a woman being buried deep in another woman’s pussy is not a horrible thing… rather it is a highly sought after experience for some… but a man getting turned on by another man sucking his cock… shame… shame… shame…

AS IF.

I will tell you right now… if my hubby decided that he wanted to be fucked by a man I would be the first one in line to set it up. I admit right now that the best porn for me to get off on when I need to get off so I can get on with my day is gay porn. It used to be bi-sexual porn (MMF) but the damn girls in the porn always look at the camera and act all stupid looking and it annoys me… I would rather just go straight towards the gay porn and get the thrill I need and the eye candy you cannot believe.

I have no problem with men in the swinging world exploring all they want to explore. If that means that the guy begins sucking the other guys cock… OMG just writing that and imagining that has my pussy soaked… no lie.

I think the thrill of a sexually social adventure is to try the things you may want to try and do what you always wanted to try.

To me a man is a helluva lot more sexy to me if he is willing to explore his bi side if that is something he wants to try. He is very strong, masculine, and sexy to me to know that he is not afraid to find the pleasure he seeks. Just like that which is open to women in the lifestyle.

Why?

Because there is nothing wrong with exploring what you need or want from this adventure.

You must be honest with yourself or you will remain unfulfilled in the adventure you are on… I am serious. You want to suck a man’s cock and you do nothing to get yourself in a situation where that type of play would be allowed, you go along feeling like you are left out of the true adventure you are venturing. Why is it okay for a woman to explore her bi side and not a man.

Now, I am not saying that every man will want to explore his bi-side. Often I find that the most vocal about the bisexuality of men and how that is not the thing they would ever consider…

Well, I will leave that unsaid for now…

I cannot tell you how many guys who after talking about having their ass played with and even being pegged by their wife… and most do not want that said out loud as if their wife pegging them is something to be ashamed of…

But I have had a number of men tell me that if the mood was right, the connection there, and the passion of the adventure led to him sucking the other guy’s cock… he may be willing to do that…

I say… what is holding  you back…

Now, I am not talking about going up to a couple that has everything in their profile stating and hinting that if a guy were to take his cock and suck it the sucked not the suckee would likely be in jail for attempted murder….

What I am talking about… is a couple where the guy has posted that he is open to or bisexual and you discuss that you may want to explore that… and then when the cock presents itself… I say go ahead and suck to your hearts content…

Again, my pussy is quivering hard right now…

But why should we allow women to have all the bisexual fun?

Here is a post I wrote a while ago… It is not completed…It was never put out on the blog yet, as I was waiting for the right time… but I love this one… a lot… and folks, just so you know… it is a work of fiction or we could say a fantasy of mine I would love to see play out….

When Two Men Find Pleasure – A Woman’s Story

I have a secret turn on that is not really that secret for me…..I am a bisexual woman and no that is not the secret….I love watching bisexual threesomes and guy/guy porn…..And for the record…the bisexual threesomes are MMF….Here is a story of stemming from this fantasy of mine…..

Sophia and Chase were headed to their local swinger club….it was Saturday night and they had a hotel room for the after party play and they were really hoping to have some fun at the club and after….Their expectations were to find one or more people to play with while keeping their adventures wide open. For Sophia, this is the way she has to do her adventure….keeping her mind open and enjoy come what may….

The music was thumping to some great dance tunes and she felt herself dancing in her chair….Chase had gone to get a drink and while he was gone a very hot man approached her….his approach was respectful and a bit timid with an odd mix of confidence….yes, a contradiction, but that is what made this man so appealing…he was beyond what one would expect….and that really accounted for much of his hotness….yes, hotness is not just looks but a combination of looks and personality…confident but not expecting….sweet but not shy….forward but respectful….smiling like he knows how to please, but willing to be told how to please the lady in his life….for that moment….

He asks if he can wait here while ‘my man’ gets a drink….I nod yes with a smile….He introduces himself as Jack and asks politely my name….Sophia I tell him and my man is Chase….He looks over at Chase who noticed his approach to our table and nods to him. Chase nods back with a smile and all is good….

He shares that he is a single male and would love to spend time tonight getting to know both me and Chase…..that last bit said with a smile….I figure I might as well ask him what I really want to know….with a smile I ask, “How well would you like to get to know Chase?”

Not a heartbeat passes without him responding, “I am bi, I would love to get to know both of you very intimately.”

That simply turned me on instantly and I was wet, hot, and needing to let him know this….but before I could he whispers to me “If you get that excited by what I said, then wait until I take his cock into my mouth and bring him such great pleasure.”

This was a first….a single man is turning me on by telling me how he wants to suck my man’s cock…..and please… he can’t stop telling me what he wants to do to both of us…..my pussy was throbbing at this time and it was needing some release….I moved a bit on my seat to get some relief down there….and Jack laughed, his dimples showing and that damn sexy voice….whispers…”I would love to bring you some much needed release”.

I couldn’t help it….I let out a moan-sigh and closed my eyes picturing him bringing me and my man release and my legs started to twitch in response to my pressure I was placing on my clit….Jack chuckled and moved close to my ear “What do you say we invite Chase into this party and move to a place a bit more quiet to get to know each other?”

I opened my eyes and Chase was back at the table with a smile on his face, he placed the drinks down and shook Jack’s hand….Chase whispered near my ear….”Are you turned on right now Sophia?”

“Oh yes I am….Jack here wants to get to know us intimately….me and you both…as in he wants to suck your cock”……

Jack has a killer grin on his face and no apology whatsoever is seen in his face or heard in his voice….”Yes, Sophia that is right, I find you both hot and would love to see what happens.”

I am amazed that he has no fear that Chase is a straight man who ‘fears’ a bi guy indicating he is hot and attracted to him or that he wouldn’t haul off and slug him……..of course, I know that Chase has never been with a man before, but he has always said if the right person came along at the right time he would be up for exploring this side of our adventure…..can it really be tonight and with Jack that this happens….I can only hope….but how did Jack know to approach us with this, tonight?

The music is still thumping and one song after another plays that I swear are my favorites….I grab Jack’s hand and ask him to dance with me….He smiles and takes me out on the dance floor….we are dancing and laughing and it feels so damn good….a slow song starts and Jack pulls me into his arms as we dance much slower and then he kisses me…..

His kisses are incredible….and as much as I don’t want to have the kiss stop, it does….he places kisses across my cheek until he reaches my ear…He says in that damn sexy voice of his that he really would love to get somewhere a bit quieter so we can all talk and get to know each other but has to wonder if Chase will be upset if he flirts with him in a public space like this….as it would not do good to have him upset if others see a guy touching him in any way…

I couldn’t express how much his consideration for Chase’s feelings meant to me…at least verbally, so I kissed him and kissed him good. I let him know that I was very attracted to him in many ways and with that kiss I felt my panties soak, my pussy quiver, and my nipples tighten….I needed this man to take me right now and I told him so……..

“You need to come back to our hotel room right now…I need you in so many ways tonight….we will start out with heading to the room and see what happens from there….and so much better happen…I don’t think I have wanted someone so soon after meeting them as I have you.”

Jack laughed and then closed his mouth over mine and kissed me into oblivion……I swear I was having an incredible orgasm from kissing and dancing with him….of course his leg had been between mine and I was riding it hard, hitting my clit in the most perfect manner…I shattered during that kiss and left a huge wet spot all over his leg…I was too far gone to care….and he didn’t seem to care one bit…in fact, he seemed rather proud of what just happened.

I can barely walk to Chase and our table after what happened. I hold onto Jack’s arm until we arrived. I look up at Chase and tell him that we are going to the hotel room right now and fucking this man until none of us can walk, think, or breath anymore……

My plan was to make sure we all had some time to talk and get to know each other before the actual sex started….and you know what they say about the best laid plans………..well…..

Chase opens the hotel room and enters first followed by me and then Jack. My heart was racing, my breasts were full from desire, and my pussy was wet and quivering…. and the possibility of seeing my husband with another man….

My heart and my brain competed with each other at this moment… I am so turned on by men having sex together and this was a dream come true. I needed to take a moment to gather my thoughts and I was preparing to head to the bathroom…. before I did… I needed to say something to ‘my men’…

“This is a dream come true for me… but only if you both truly want each other as much I want both of you…. this has to be more for you than doing it for me… I want your passion unleashed because it is your passion for each other… not for a show for me…”

With that, I gathered a little bag and headed off to the bathroom with a kiss.

Once in the bathroom I took a deep cleansing breath…. I needed to find that heart rate that was somewhere between turned on yet calm enough to focus on the moment… it was taking some time to find that spot because I was so damn turned on by what was about to happen…. what seemed like hours was only a few minutes before I was ready to join my men….

I was not expecting what I saw when I entered the bedroom, but I was so very happy by what I saw… one small light was left on, otherwise the room was dimmer… just the hint of light and shadows increasing the beauty of what was before me…

Jack, standing behind Chase had his hands circling towards his chest unbuttoning Chase’s shirt… each button was slowly pushed out of the button hole and I could tell Chase was turned on by this slow and seductive act. I remained just outside the bathroom door transfixed by what I was observing….

As Jack pushed another button out of its hole, he kissed the back of Chase’s neck. He moved the shirt further open and moved down to the next button in a slow and sensual manner… I could hear Chase’s breathing increase in passion with each kissed placed and each button opened….

Finally, Jack released the last button and he slowly slid the shirt off Chase’s shoulders and back… what a glorious sight that was to behold… I noticed Chase holding his breath as Jack slowly moved his hands down Chase’s arms along with the shirt. Jack then brought his hands slowly up Chase’s back, exploring each inch of his body at the same time.

My nipples were so hard, to the point of being sore from want, Jack’s, Chase’s and mine. There was nothing I wanted more right now than to cum and damn, it appeared I was about ready… I clenched those muscles together and released and clenched and released a few more times… I held onto the door frame for support as I quietly came hard from what I witnessed.

Chase was still facing away from Jack, his cock straining from behind his jeans… It looked painful in the position it was in… but it was a sign that all was good, that Jack was the right man to introduce Chase to passions he has felt were not possible… as he is not attracted to men….but then again, maybe he was only attracted to this one man…. his body seemed to be reacting to all of Jack’s kisses and touches… his nipple hard, his cock painfully large and straining with a wet spot forming on his pants, his breathing hard and fast, but it was his hands that told me how much he wanted Jack….

His hands had found their way behind his back. Chase was touching Jack where ever he could… as if he needed to feel for himself that Jack was bringing him these pleasurable moments… bringing him fulfillment as no other man has.

Jack reached around and stroked Chase’s cock and I swore the cock jumped in response…Chase let out a moan of pure pleasure from this simple act. Jack cupped his fingers around the outline of the cock and grabbed a hold of it the best he could, placing pressure on the beautiful and straining organ.

I couldn’t see if Jack was as hard as Chase was because he was tight up against Chase’s backside. My assumption held that he was as he began to move his hips in a steady rhythm against Chase….

Jack’s other hand came to the front of Chase’s jeans and began to unbutton. I held my breath in anticipation…. and it appears so did Chase. He wanted this as much as I did…. Tears began to form in my eyes to see my man wanting this pleasure as much as I… his passion building for this man as did mine. We could finally share a man in every sense of the word…. suck his cock together… explore his body… take him as he could take us….

Jack was now slowly unzipping Chase’s jeans and a groan of pleasure came from both men at the same time… how on earth could this be any hotter for me… I could feel my need building up again… demanding release right now…. I began circling my clit with my finger… watching the men enjoying themselves and a thought came to my head… did they even know I was watching… not one of them had looked over at me or given me any other bit of acknowledgement…. My legs were growing shaky and I slowly inched my way down to the floor as to not interrupt them… luckily my view was still unobstructed…. I got comfortable as I sat on the floor… my legs spread, my hips tilted in the best position to bring myself to an orgasm… my eyes fixed on the guys… but my finger finding the source of my personal pleasure….

Now that Jack had Chase’s jeans opened… he slid them down to the floor…. still behind Chase, he chuckled as he noticed Chase’s choice of undergarment…. None… He was without any other fabric under his jeans so his cock was standing straight out in anticipation of what was to cum….

Jack worked himself back up Chase’s body by kissing his legs, thighs, and his ass…. oh did he kiss Chase’s ass… first one cheek and then the other… every inch of his sexy as was explored… from the outside in… he worked and worked his way to the center… to the crease… to where his hole was… first Jack used his finger to explore that crease until it was necessary to use both hands to open the crease up enough to use his tongue to continue his exploration….

Chase was alternating between holding his breath and breathing out moans of pleasure… I knew the exact moment when Jack’s tongue reached his the part of his ass that was most sensitive… that craved his tongue… and Jack did not disappoint…. Chase screamed out “FUCK YES!” and grabbed his cock, stroking the weeping organ hard and fast…. Jack’s face was buried in Chase’s crease and pleasure was the only expression on his face….

I was not immune to the pleasure the men were giving and receiving… My clit was swollen and sensitive and to the point where I was going to explore…. I tried so hard to remain quiet, but I couldn’t… I was cumming so hard from what they were doing and let out my own moans of pleasure….instead of disturbing them.. it increased their pleasure….

Hope you are enjoying your sexually social adventure

Sophia

Understanding Double Standards… part three

In the last two posts I mentioned how women are expected to be bi and want to play with every other female just because they exist. No interest shown, no desire built, but by golly, play with me now….. Now. this isn’t the only double standard that seems to go on with women in the lifestyle… there is another bit of one that just absolutely upsets people, but rarely gets ‘taken care of’ as the fact they have a pussy rather than a cock seems to be all the difference.

But let’s just get this out in the open. Rude behavior is rude behavior whether a cock or a pussy is attached.

I have seen this discussed on chat, forums, and in other blogs. I have seen this in person at parties we attend and parties we hosted.

Our very first party a female had been so damn rude to all the male guests no matter what they did… and often it was just small talk to get to know her and her husband. She acted like a prima donna. She wasn’t pretty enough, hot enough, or nice enough to act like a prima donna. Yet she did. She was embarrassing to watch and even more so when she acted like she was worth all the trouble she was dishing out. We do not have anything to do with this couple anymore… Such a shame because he was a very good fuck. But her drama shit just kept getting worse. I have a saying… ‘you just aren’t hot enough to put up with your shit.’ The thing is, no one, no matter how hot they may think they are… are worth putting up with any shit…

Another party we had, a female decided that she would just jump right into the middle of whatever I was doing and take over. Now I am a fan of puppy piles… don’t get me wrong… if this was a situation where it was a puppy pile… then you know what… join away… but the mentality of a puppy pile is to join in and flow nicely into the vibe of the group. It is not to basically sit on body parts of the person (me in this case) to get in the position I am in… in an effort to not cause drama, I moved to focus on the second guy rather than both guys as I was… and then she wanted to be in that position as well and you know what… she moved in and took over… left the first guy sitting there wondering WTF too.

When it was over and I threw the package of wipes at them to clean up… they got the idea that what she did was not really that acceptable.  They left within 10 minutes. I am sure it took a few minutes to realize that yes in deedy I was not happy with them. I left the room, went elsewhere and played with others…

I did not yell, I did not make sarcastic comments… I threw the wipes towards them because a couple was getting ready to leave and blocked my access to the room as I said goodbye. But it did make the point without a huge ‘drama scene’. When they said their goodbyes and went on about having to leave early for work and other shit I just did not give a damn about… I wanted to say leave already I don’t fucking care… I gave them a hug. I sent an email the next day thanking them for the birthday gift I received because that is rude not to thank them….and got a return email going on again about the time they arrived home, the time they got to bed, and so on… as if I fucking cared. I didn’t. I gave them a chance after the first party they attended and did some ‘drama’ between themselves… They acknowledged their drama, apologized, and asked for another chance…. Stupid bitch… I am talking about myself…. I shouldn’t have given them a second chance…. should have stuck with my gut…

To act as if I gave a shit about how much sleep they got… I find incredible. It was her both times… causing the drama at my house at my party….she acted like what most people at a lifestyle event blame guys for…. and then let it all blow over….

I know by the way their email was written they know they upset me… they wanted to stick with their story. They know that she was wrong. I will never have any party or other get together with them. I will not attend something that they are at… her behavior was wholly unacceptable.

Why didn’t I throw her out right away? Why didn’t I say something directly to her? I was the hostess of the party. I do not want to have anyone think that I was upset because she got some while I didn’t. Even though that is not how it happened and all 7 people in that room where it happened know it was her causing the problem… I would not have my getting upset and saying something what the others remember. I knew I would no longer associate with them. I know the manner in which I handled the situation would make a statement without saying a word… I chose that path because this happened to me… I would have chosen another path to take if it happened to another guest.

I went into the bedroom where hubby and the Mrs of the guy she basically sat on his dick while I was sucking him… were taking a break from fucking… hubby asked me what’s the matter… I quickly told them… he asked if he needed to do anything. I said no. In a matter of minutes we were saying goodbye to the bitch… so all is good.

If it was someone else that had that happened to them at my party… I would have made a public statement that the bitch needed to get her clothes and get the fuck out of my house as she does not treat my guests that way.

Why? Because it is hugely different…. I am a hostess protecting her guests… I can’t be mistaken and seen as upset that someone had come in and tried to get what I was getting from me…

It really is a matter of how it is perceived. As a hostess getting upset on behalf of a guest is considered good… and as a hostess who was ‘wronged’ if you want to call it that… I can blacklist her from my future parties and I can avoid her at other get togethers…

We have had some other examples of witnessing the issues at other parties. Females acting absolutely horrible. The women would go and basically treat the spouse like shit and attack the man…

Or they would create such drama that it was sickening to watch.

Each of those women were given a pass.

At our party with the bitch I mentioned above…. a man asked to join a couple playing and both male and female felt it was rude to ask to join them… yet, I had to explain a few times as to why this was a problem… a man asked and they were irritated… a woman slides her pussy in between me and a man I was giving a blow job to, slides on him as I obviously moved out of the way when someone tried to sit on me while giving a blow job… and they didn’t see it as a problem….

Why not? What the woman had done was far worse. Why give her a pass when she doesn’t deserve one? Because she has a pussy.

The behavior was far worse… and if a guy were to slide his ass on that man’s cock and expect me to suck his cock like she did and he was not invited into this particular scenario he would have been thrown from any party he was in within minutes and not given the opportunity to get dressed…. try really hard to ignore the bi male issue you are focusing on and get back to the point… the behavior is the same regardless of your feelings of guy on guy action…

I could spend hours writing all the scenarios we have seen where men were assumed to be rude before even being slightly rude… and a woman has gone and basically ‘raped’ a guy without permission… seen this and hear others share this story… and you know what… if you are upset I used the word rape… consider how women feel when a man touches their pussy without permission in a lifestyle setting – while the sex is assumed to be a possibility without asking for permission it is in fact meeting the definition of rape in its loosest form.

Why does that continue?

I know the answer. My fear as the hostess and birthday girl that night of being seen as jealous, insecure, thinking it had to be all about me… made me stop and think of how I want to handle this… while the throwing of the wipes was not the original intent… I had intended to put it on the coffee table for them… but was blocked from entering the room to say goodbye to guests… and I threw the wipes… I was told a week later it hit someone in the head… oops… not my intent… but you know what… in hindsight it did send a message that I was a bit pissed… that I was upset… and then to head to the other side of the house when I finished saying goodbye to that couple….

Yeah, I said a lot and sent a message that was clear. I was pissed. What she did was wrong. What she did was rude. What she did was not acceptable.

Do I blame the guy she slid on in this scenario? Do I blame the first guy she jumped onto when he was doing all kinds of nice things to my pussy while I was sucking the other guy?

No I do not.

Personal responsibility is why. This bitch knew what she was doing. It was calculated. She wanted to be the center of the attention. How do I know that? Because from the time she arrived at the party that was what she was doing. Trying to be the center of attention. No matter what or where she was acting out in order to get the attention of others.

This was just an extension of that… this was just the continuation of the entire night of trying to get everyone’s attention.

Her boyfriend and I were involved with the other guy… how does he say… sorry honey, move away… I am busy… That was the problem with the first party… he was involved with another woman and she went off…

The guy she sat on and rode hard…. do I blame him… well, not really.. see.. how was he to stop her without some risk of damage to his cock… push her off of him… it wasn’t like he could see that I was getting pissed… she was between us… and two… I didn’t make a face that showed I was pissed… just bored… but he couldn’t see that… and then even if it is not what he was really wanting… he is also in the position of appearing like an ass or a sissy telling a woman riding his cock to get off of him…

It was an awkward position to be in for all three of us… which is the point. The very essence of the point…

It is an awkward situation to be placed in because one person has little if no respect for the others involved. No one was asked if this was okay. No one felt they could make a scene against a woman… if it was a man… the entire room would be up in arms… but because it was a woman… she was given a lot more leeway to be rude.

No one is crying rape in this situation… but if it was a guy who did a similar thing… the word rape would have been tossed around as a possibility. You and I both know that is true…

The mentality of the crowd thinking because she is a woman it is a little slutty of her…

For a man, he is the worse kind of bastard and should be banned from the entire lifestyle…

Would I change how I handled it?

No, here is why. It was a teachable moment.

A week later talking the guy and his wife – she was irritated that a guy wanted to join her and my hubby… and the guy the one who was fucked by the bitch… we discussed how what the guy did was nothing compared to what the bitch did… however, my hubby and her were still irritated by the man… Yet when I explained how she did much worse… it took a while for them to see the double standard that exists…

I also would not change the manner I dealt with the bitch.. Why? If I would have screamed at her and embarrassed her publicly all she would have remembered is how I freaked the fuck out and yelled at her and embarrassed her. She would not have realized that what she did was rude, crossed the line, and was not acceptable. Based on our history together… this being the second time she showed her ass (as in bad behavior) at my party, it was unlikely I would invite her back. And since this was directed and directly impacted me… being a woman I am sure she realized she was not longer welcome to any parties I have.

The fact they left their alcohol and never came back for it or asked for it like she did other items left from the first party… and her going over again that she had to leave early and she was suffering as she got no sleep and had to work that day…

My only comment that came to mind and I kept it to myself until now… ‘who the fuck cares bitch… maybe you should have stayed home all night long, it would have been better for us all.’

There is a network of house party hosts in this area… they will ask you if you have any problems with people so they will not allow them to their party and us ours… they ask for profile names so they can say, sorry you can’t come and whatever reasons they want… this is our homes we are opening up… this is a home we live in and want to protect as well as our reputation as a host/hostess that looks out for their guests…

This profile has made the blacklist. Oddly enough… many people may not do a whole lot at the time to kick out poorly behaved women but they will blacklist them…

Seems that list is growing every day… something to think about… the double standard to allow women to get away with the same bad behavior that men are blamed for even when they do not do it… yeah, it is slowly catching up with you….

Women, you must realize that your bad behavior is not acceptable. Not everyone finds what you do funny, sexy, or enticing. Not everyone will put up with you because you feel you are allowed to be a bitch. Just because you have a pussy doesn’t mean you have a pass on your bad behavior.

Have fun and behave on your sexually social adventures…

Sophia

Brief Encounters….

Running late all day I was feeling behind and very frustrated. I needed to have my car worked on and I barely made it to the service station as it was. A car was ahead of me in line and as long as I was in line that is all that mattered. I needed to take a deep breath and relax. I closed my eyes and took several breaths and tried to think some happy thoughts… All I could think of… was how long it had been since I had sex. It had been so long… so damn long.

Someone cleared their throat outside my window. I jumped, opened my eyes and blushed as I had the thoughts of needing sex still in my head. I said hi to the service man and gave him all the details. I exited my car and headed towards the waiting room. I had my hands in my purse looking for my phone that was chirping about the text message I just received. I was not paying attention to what I was doing. I was distracted. I admit it is my fault… but damn…

The man I ran into, as in I ran directly into him… hard… he was caught as off guard as I was by the sounds he was making. And I will tell you what… my body hurt running into that thick wall of muscle he has… OMG…

I was equal parts turned on and embarrassed. But if I had to choose, I would go with turned on… you know what it is like when you haven’t had sex in a while, literally run into a hot man, and have your breasts pressed up against him… nipples immediately hard in response…

OH SHIT…. his coffee is hot…. That is the next thing I notice…. the spilled coffee is really hot… I jump back and let out a little owww…..

I was wearing a little black tank dress… thank goodness I won’t be walking around all day with a coffee stain… but damn, I need to get this cleaned up… I look at him and he is wet with hot coffee…

We look at each other and to the bathroom where it is unisex… and I suggest we share if we are just going to clean it up… he nods his agreement as he starts walking to the restroom with me…

I noticed he held open the door for me… I figure I need to at least introduce myself… I do and follow it with an apology. I am so sorry I ran into him… other than the hot coffee, he isn’t. Finds it quite exciting to have a pretty girl pressed against him… hard nipples and all…

My face is red… but not all from embarrassment… my thong is quite soaked already…this man has that effect on me. This man…. oh my..

I grab some paper towels and get them wet and dab the spots of coffee and then move to wipe the coffee off my skin… now remember, I have gone without sex for a while, I am locked in a bathroom under my suggestion with a hot guy… I have coffee on my dress and my skin… there is an opportunity to have a bit of fun… maybe tease him a bit and maybe if all works well, get a date out of it… who knows… but if not… at least I will have fun now…

I lower the top of my tank dress so I can clean the coffee off my breasts. I know he noticed… his breath hitched… then a whispered… oh fuck…

I then wet another towel and raise the front of my dress…. just stopping before exposing the front of my thong… I use circular motions on the front of my thighs… the paper towel edge is actually whisper-softly touching my clit…. my pussy is so into this little game…

I drop the paper towels on purpose on the floor and then bend over and not with my knees to pick it up… I happen to know in this position my thong is exposed to him…

You are playing with fire…. that is all he whispers to me and that is enough… I stand up and walk over to him… I grab a new paper towel and wet it and with my other hand start pulling his t shirt out of the waist of his pants… He helps me take the shirt off and then I start to wipe the ‘coffee’ off his chest…

I couldn’t help myself… I started to place little kisses on his chest… he puts his arms around me and pulls me closer… he then cups my ass under my dress, squeezing and kneading me and it is turning me on… I take his nipple in my mouth… while I begin to undo his pants…

He puts his hands on both sides of my face and pulls me up to him and moves in for a kiss… I am not sure if kiss is the best word for what we are doing… we are laying a game plan for what we are going to be doing… he is fucking my mouth with his tongue and I am happily fucking him back…

I freed his cock and thank goodness too… it was hard and straining against his jeans… poor thing… it needs so much attention… and good thing I am here to give it to him..

I begin stroking his cock with my hand…thinking how much fun it would be to have it in my mouth…

He moves my thong off my hips and it falls down my legs… I step out of it and rather amazed at the speed this is progressing. The most daring thing I had done…

My breasts are out of my dress and one in each of his hands. Our kiss breaks as he puts one very hard and eager nipple into his mouth… OMG, it is going from my nipple straight to my pussy… which I must say is dripping right now… wanting the cock that is in my hand….

I need him to fuck me now. I cannot wait any longer… I moan out please fuck me… not the most elegant of words… but he seems to get the point… I hear some noise, I am thinking it is a condom wrapper… and he turns me around facing the wall… my hands are above my head, flat against the wall and my dress is being lifted and then taken off me… I put my hands back against wall and feel his hands on top of mine, our fingers intertwining.

His body is against mine. I can feel his cock nestled up next to my ass… I can feel his heart beat out a rhythm that says he is very excited to be here right now… His breath is on my neck as he kisses and nibbles that oh s0 sensitive area… he asks me if I am sure… I can barely get out the words I am so in need… yes, please.. oh god, yes please….

He spreads my legs a bit and arches my hips up and slides in, slowly at first… I am so fucking wet it is hard for him to slide in slowly… I am hot, wet, tight and so eager to have him in my pussy… he moans out his pleasure… which turns me on ever more…

Our hands are still entwined…but I can feel the strength he is using to hold back… as if he is afraid he will hurt me… I tell him to go hard and fast… I like it hard and fast… he mumbles out oh god yes… and starts to pound me hard… it is setting every nerve ending in my body into ecstasy…. my pussy is already responding to his movements… I am feeling so damn wonderful and I let him know…

He put on hand on my nipple and gave it a bit of a pinch before he placed it all in his hand and squeezed in time with his thrusts… I could feel the sensation follow a path to my pussy and moaned in appreciation.

He placed his other hand on my clit and began making it sing in pleasure… I was so close to cumming it was amazing… and incredible… I reached around us both to grab his ass in a feeble attempt to get him further inside me… he was already in as far as humanly possible, but I wanted more… I was being so damn greedy…

He is pounding into me hard and relentlessly. I wanted more… I needed more… he felt so good. He was making me feel incredible… I had been on the edge of cumming for too long… I was ready to jump down off that edge and dissolve right on his amazing cock…

He can feel my pussy tightening… he whispers… go ahead baby and let go…

I do… I let out a moan and I begin to cum around his cock…. my pussy tightens, it quivers, my body shakes, and my legs go limp… I can’t seem to stop cumming… I feel wetness streaming down my thighs… he is telling me how great it is to have me cum on him… he can feel my release… he is ready… he cums… I can feel him as his body prepares and lets go his release… it is powerful and his thrusts cease as a few more reflexive movements happen. He moves his hands back up on the wall with mine to hold us both upright… I think both of us are wishing we were lying down to recover… our bodies are limp and drained of pleasure and energy.

A few moments pass and he has to take care of the condom… I have to clean the evidence of my pleasure off my thighs…

I place my thong in my purse and pull my dress over my head… he pulls his jeans back up and covers up his incredible cock… I look down at it in lust…wanting more…

I look back up at him… he is watching me as he finishes getting dressed…

He says… ‘are you up for more brief encounters?’

I smile and say ‘yes, please’.

Hope you are having a wonderful sexually social adventure… I am…

Sophia

Understanding Double Standards… part two…

The understanding of double standards is difficult, because even if you understand them you may not be able to change them…

Well, ain’t that a defeatist attitude.. did not mean for it to sound defeatist… but if you understand the double standard and allow the double standard to continue… you have defeated yourself and those you hope will change the double standard….

I have taken a stand a number of times.. on a number of these double standards but not by getting up on a soap box and screaming my opinion to others… sometimes I have taken approaches that are subtle… direct… and humorous… and yes, I have even resorted to blogging about some of these things..

I have been told that I have managed to say in words what they felt. I have addressed issues they didn’t realize they had… I have had people agree wholeheartedly with some of what I wrote…

I have had people stop talking to me or having anything to do with me because I wrote about a particular issue when I addressed it with them first and they ignored me or got pissed I had the audacity to disagree with what they did or said to me…

The double standard I mentioned yesterday – women thinking that just because they have tits and pussy that is all they have to do to get another woman to play with them….

Oddly enough… I had a conversation about this – brought up first by the other person and they hadn’t read my blog – how do I know that???? I had finished it up while talking to this person… wasn’t sure she even knew of my blog.  She mentioned that she was sick of the male half flirting with her and nothing from the female half but when it was time to play she was expected to play with the female.

She was like… WTF? Just how was I supposed to get all excited about the female half if there was no connection. I told her I know exactly what you are talking about…seriously…

I told her that I needed to have some type of indication that the person likes me… maybe not for months, weeks, days… but at least when we are together would love to know the person wants me…

She asked why women don’t actually flirt with each other…

I have no idea… She had no idea… but she asked me what I do about it… how do I let them know…

I told that I refuse to play. We may touch hands or maybe stroke a nipple while playing… but a woman who really wants to play with me will let me know just as I will let her know… if it doesn’t happen… then it won’t happen.

She then asked the best question possible…

Why do women take for granted that everyone will want them male or female…

The reason I believe… is ego based. Everyone wants to believe they are all that… and in the lifestyle this is about as bad as it gets. I am being honest here… so many women believe that they are all that… they have their spouses building them up as the most beautiful and sexy woman who ever walked the earth. But they are only ‘attractive’. They are not sexy because they wear lingerie. They do not make themselves approachable and so no one finds them as sexy as they think.

They cannot rely solely on their spouses opinion. They have to make an honest attempt to engage with others… They have to want to get to know others… they have to want  to find out about others…

The women who have the most fun on their adventure are the ones who engage both males and females. They are the ones that work up the nerve to talk to you and really engage you as a response to your engagement efforts on them….

I am more than likely to engage more people on the date or at a party or club than most. There have been dates where if I did not speak, there would be absolute silence.

I look for exit signs to run and run fast… I am not going to enjoy playing with someone who cannot make the effort to engage me…

Now, I know that I am not everyone’s cup of tea… believe me I have no problem with that… I am hoping often that I won’t be so I don’t have to be the one who says NO WAY! I give them outs…. we are sitting there and the person decides I am going to put my moves on her and there was no hint that they want to… I suddenly have to go to the bathroom and then when I get back… I regroup and find an excuse to leave….

You have to do some prep work to let me know you want me when you meet me or it is not going to happen…

For men or women…

You want me to play with you… you have to let me know… When I flirt with you.. you have to respond… if I am not flirting with you because you have given off the cold and aloof vibe… then you will have to let me know you are interested… but you know what… in all honesty… you lost your chance with the cold and aloof vibe you gave off…

I guess I am not the only person who feels this way…

Women do not get a free pass just because they are a woman to not do any work at letting the other person know you want them…

As I said before… I am bi… not doing this for show… doing it because I found you attractive, interesting, and there was a connection between us… just as it has to be when with a man…

I am not going to simply do a bi-show for your entertainment….

Just something to ponder on your sexually social adventure….

Sophia