I am going to share with you with permission some comments from a fan of mine. I use the words fan because the person this is about uses the word fan. The ‘fan’ starts the conversation off a little differently than what one may expect… but it is nonetheless interesting… and a bit entertaining.
Sophie – you are odd. I have seen your profile and forum posts on a site and I don’t get you. I do however call myself a fan of you. I have in fact seen your private pictures so I do know what you look like face and body… you have some great pictures. You are a beautiful woman. You have a voice. You have an opinion. You write a lot of words. I read all you post just about everywhere I can find you writing. I am not a stalker. Honest. I am not. I just find myself happy with what you write and upset based on what you write.
You do not hold back. I have to wonder if you are that way when you have sex. Full of passion and full of life. I expect I would not agree with all your write or say in person, but it would be interesting.
I don’t agree with a great deal of what you write as you write it. The general points yes, but not the details you share. I find this interesting because despite not agreeing with you I have to read all you write. You intrigue me.
You appear very intelligent even when you write very simply. I have a feeling it is so that you are understood, but often you are not understood by many. I think that has to be due to your intelligence and your sex.
Women are not to be smart.
Women are not to be sexy because of their intelligence.
Women should not challenge men.
You do it all. And well.
However, you alienate men because of it.
You admit readily that you are not submissive, yet, you want a man to take a lead. That is a contradiction and confusing.
I am not sure why you want men to follow rules of contacting you. You seem to be a bit controlling.
You want men to do what you say and you are not happy when they don’t. I don’t understand why you just do not let that go and be happy that you are in contact with men.
I know this may sound like I am not a fan of yours, but I really am. I find you beautiful, intelligent, sexy, and too controlling for me.
I think you will be more successful in your adventure if you are less controlling. You really should give up more control with others.
That is what I wanted to say and I hope you understand I am a fan of yours and if we were ever to meet we would have great sex as long as you are submissive.
My response to him was interesting – well at least to me.
Hi, thanks for the email. I appreciate the feedback, analysis, and ‘fan letter’ sent to me. I am not sure you are a fan of mine if I am so not what you like… but thank you for the compliments and the criticism of who I am.
I am not submissive. You tell me to do something as an order I will not do it.
I do not apologize for that fact. I am not submissive.
However, I will be more than happy to please you if you let me know what it is you want as long as it does not go against my hard limits. If you whisper into my eye when we are naked and having sex what you want me to do… I will do it… I do not see that as submissive, I see that as wanting to please my sexual partner.
I am not sure what to do if you do not understand that statement.
I am a person with a mind, a voice, and the ability to type the details of my thoughts well… and I do. If you do not like the fact that I write what I think instead of writing to hopefully get someone to fuck me… then we won’t get along in person… which means we won’t be fucking.
I love having conversations, debates, and other lively encounters with others… when I do have lively encounters, where each of us are authentic in who we are… it is so much better when we have sex.
If you cannot handle the fact that I will not cater my opinions to please a potential (even if the potential is highly unlikely) that is okay… you wouldn’t be the type of guy I like.
I like a man who knows what he wants, communicates what he wants, and takes the lead to get my attention, my panties, and enjoy the pleasure I give him.
Just because I am not submissive does not mean that I do not want a man who takes a lead… the lead… with me.
I am not going to apologize for that…
I am not sure where you get that I am controlling. I am not. I believe you confuse the fact that I voice my opinions and preferences as controlling.
I do not have time to mess around with someone who cannot carry on a real conversation with me.
Texting and sexting may be a common occurrence in swinging, but I truly believe the conversations should be worth someone.
A few weeks ago I received an email on a site that said ‘text, hendo?’ and a phone number. That was all that was written… seriously… was I supposed to text the phone number ‘hendo?’…
This person has a free account and can only send/receive 5 emails a day.
My question is… why wouldn’t you make the contact mean something?
He sent an email stating that I must not be interested because I hadn’t texted ‘hendo’ back to him. I asked him what I was to take from that email he sent. He hadn’t said he was interested in me… never said I was pretty… never said I was interesting… Sexy… nothing… just text hendo? and a number.
Why am I controlling because I won’t respond to someone who obviously cannot carry on a conversation?
I am not interested in having a list of men to text daily. I want to text people who want to fuck me. I want to text people who I have friendships with that actually care about having a conversation with me.
I have significantly cut back on who I spend time texting. I love the freedom it has given me. I am not going to waste time on someone who can’t carry a conversation. This is single men, women, and married men. Seriously, I have had some pretty stupid waste of time texts from people that cause me nothing but aggravation.
I have had to cancel ‘dates’ because people are just too stupid to get it… you want to communicate with me and fuck me… then converse with me… not the ‘hey’ shit… not the one-sided 2 hour long monologue… not the talking about you cheating on your wife, lying to her or trying to manipulate her… seriously?????
I am not controlling to decide to move on or to avoid altogether… it is my phone, my time, my decision…
What you want is to compliment me while tearing me down… read your email to me again and you will see that I am right there… you compliment me while tearing me down… shame on me for not being submissive. Shame on me for sharing my opinion… Shame on me for being pretty, smart, and vocal…
I laughed while reading your email… the timing was awesome… I was upsetting people by announcing something that annoyed me… I guess I am not smart enough to act air-headed, stupid, and dumb to get laid… I am okay with that… because I have enough confidence in myself to be myself… an authentic, non submissive self…
But I do thank you for your email… it does help me see how people see me and how I am coming across as I am… a real woman with a brain, confidence, voice, and frustrating men who do not what to do with a real woman…