Yes, there is a fine line between sexy and creepy swingers. A find line that is often crossed and the person who witnesses the crossing usually wants to react immediately, but will find themselves holding back… because if they are wrong… the person is not creepy… they get a reputation… if they are creepy… just how creepy will they go.
I have had a few people along the way that have gone from being flirty and friendly… wanting to fuck me to following me on everything they can. That goes to creepy awfully quickly in my opinion. Follow me on my blog, follow my on my sophia twitter feed… I am okay with that… figure out how to follow me on every site I am on… personal and swinger… you are creepy.
It is not flattering to have someone follow you everywhere online. It is not flattering to see someone everywhere you look… and constantly looking at you. It is creepy because it is a stalker type behavior.
A curious look here and there followed up with a comment or email… that is sexy… constantly following someone around on all platforms… not saying anything… creepy.
Telling someone you follow them everywhere… creepy.
When a swinger wants to meet someone and finds a great desire to meet them… they tend to go overboard. I am just as guilty as the rest… you get caught up on the new relationship excitement… and then… whoa… you find yourself having to step back because you are noticing you are spending to much time focused on the person… and yet… there are those who don’t respect that gut feeling they are having… and they will keep going. Which crosses into the creepy as shit category.
I have had to go to some extremes at times and delete connections between profiles on different sites… like facebook, twitter, swinger sites, and other locations… as a way to send a message, “I am done with you”… I have also gone to extremes to block people. To find that a person is still trying to find out about what is going on… well, that is just annoying.
As a swinger, we are quickly told that drama is not good. Don’t cause drama. Yet, while waiting to let the drama situations die down… we put up with a lot of drama. We try to do what we can without making a scene… but sometimes it is necessary to do.
I noticed this past week a profile on a site we are on that I have separated myself from elsewhere… Lucky for me… this profile cannot see my profile because we do not let free or uncertified accounts view us. However, they can read what is posted on the forums. I decided to block the profile so that while they can read what I write on the forums other people start, they cannot do so on the threads I started. I did this to demonstrate to the profile I do not want contact with them… and I certainly do not want them to read up on me as a way to stay connected. Do I know for sure this person is reading my stuff on the forums? Nope. But then again I don’t care. By their own past admittance, they will search high and low to find any way to connect with me. I don’t want that with them. I want no contact with them.
The purpose of this thread is to tell other swingers to be aware of those who cross the line between sexy and creepy. Put a stop to creepy people as soon as you start to feel the creepy feeling… it is nearly impossible to block all aspects of your online existence, but you really should try your best to limit it.
There are creepy vanilla people. There are creepy swingers. We all have to pay attention to these people and take steps to stop all connections when you get that creepy feeling in your gut.