Monthly Archives: August 2019

Post Sexual Surrendering

A while ago I wrote about sexual surrendering. Well, this is the post sexual surrendering of a swinger with a swinger… and well… it wasn’t just between two swingers… it went deeper… which when talking about the topic of sexual surrendering, it is not a big surprise.

In the spirit of full disclosure… the person I chose to sexually surrender to was someone I have had intense feelings for over the last bunch of years. I had feelings… and still do for this person… feelings like love and it makes me so happy… all those feelings are going through my head and heart right now and I am glad that I chose him. More than that… he chose me.

And that is important to note… he also chose me.

That is so huge… that this was not a one sided encounter… one sided surrender… and it makes it that much more… well… incredible.

What I am writing about today is just my side of this topic… my thoughts on surrendering… my experience of surrendering… and how easy it was on one hand and how scary it was… until it wasn’t.

When talking about surrendering to him sexually, I have to start from before… I had to make the decision to surrender sexually and I had to tell him what I wanted to do… you just do not sexually surrender without some kind of warning… it can be rather intense if they do not know anything about it ahead of time. When I told him about what I was wanting to experience his reaction was one of feeling honored, humbled and similar things… I felt heard, cherished and blessed. It appeared I choose well.

As we began to get to know each other better the weight of this ask was lessened as we learned how much we had in common… and with that commonality we connected on a deeper level and with that trust began to develop.

Trust was essential for me and I was not sure just how important it was until I began to see how easy I could trust him… and that of course built additional trust. I could see this playing out when he would ask me if I would do something rather small… he mentioned he loves dark nail polish on women… and asked if I would paint my nails dark… overall this is not a big deal… however, I have had some shade of lavender for years and well… this was a big ask… for me. That and the whole ‘why do I have to’ attitude that is common for me… see why surrender was something I wanted to explore.

I felt good about choosing a dark, dark purple… and let’s be honest here… the color is so dark you can’t tell there is any purple… but whatever… a small step to some, a big step for me. This meant that I would give up some control over nail polish… good grief… is this really that hard… apparently not as hard as I made it out to be.

I was told to cancel my rental car reservation. It made sense… but damn I wanted to have that freedom and control… but it made sense… and well… I did it… and despite a few moments of really wishing I had a rental car of my own… I gave in to common sense and gave up the rental car… again, putting my trust in him. I have to admit that this was one thing I struggled with throughout the trip… but I still did it.

I suddenly became rather dependent on him… he was picking me up from the airport, he was taking me to my hotel, he… he… he… yes, I had given up a lot of control on this trip and for me that was a difficult thing to ponder happening before him or with anyone but him. But from the moment I woke up on that Saturday morning, the morning I was heading out to Denver, I was at peace with this trip, the loss of control over so many small things and some larger things… I didn’t feel like I was losing anything but rather that I was gaining something far greater.

It was at that point that I really started getting the whole surrender thing… in a way that was not as I expected it. I was not giving anything up but in fact gaining far more from the experience… and this is not even to the point of sexual surrender. As I gave up control I felt peace… when I let someone else make a decision I felt secure in the path… it was so damn weird… and good.

And we still haven’t physically met yet… amazing as shit if you think about it…

Then we meet.

I felt like I had known him for years… granted… we did. For five years online… but from the moment we met in person… I felt like I was coming home after a long trip.

So then we have the first kiss… the hand holding… the getting to know each other… the trust was already there… and well… it makes surrendering easier. Again, I had known him for years… and now…

There was a moment when I knew without a doubt that what could have been swinger sex was more than that… it was the moment that the surrendering happened… when all I was thinking about and feeling was him… when every breath I took was focused on him, every desire was for him all moments of pleasure from him. I had complete trust in him…

Whatever he wanted, whatever he asked, whatever he demanded I would surrender to with no question, no fear, no hesitation… and knowing with every fiber of my body, every thought in my mind and every whisper of my soul that he was worthy of my surrender.

What is even more poignant here is the surrendering that he did to me.

The sex was incredible. The connection deep.

The surrendering brought a level of intimacy to the whole relationship. I also noticed that I completely trusted him.

I had never been on a motorcycle. Never wanted to be on one… never had an interest… never felt I could trust anyone enough… and then he asked me if I wanted to ride one to see Red Rocks… my answer came quickly… “sure” (never said it was enthusiastic). But I was willing to do this… ride on a motorcycle with him. No fear, anxiety, dread or nervousness… throughout the entire ride I felt excited, happy, safe, eager to enjoy the ride…

I see this as an incredible experience and wonderful lesson learned about myself and my capacity to trust, love, and surrender.

Is this something every swinger should or can do? Probably not. I think it is too much for most who view swinging as fun sex. Could I do it with any other partner? Nope. I would not want to do it with anyone else. So why did this work and why with him? The only answer that I can think of is because what developed between us was love. Can it be done without love? I am sure it can, I just don’t know if it would feel the same without it turning into love eventually. Surrendering is intense and vulnerable and emotions play a role… a big role in the whole experience. The components of surrendering requires trust, strong connections, communication, and yes… emotions similar to great affection or love..

Muah Sophia

Navigating Emotional Intelligence and Poly

My previous post started this conversation about emotional intelligence and poly… and believe me… when you are talking about poly and it having emotional and sexual connections with more than just your significant other… emotions come into play. A lot of emotions from several people. Yeah, it can be tough… when you think about the type of emotions… even tougher.

As with most things in life… the speed in which one travels on their journey affects their ability to react appropriately at times or to even recognize their emotions to their circumstances… they may be still trying to figure out their role, their emotions, their desires… and it may be at a slower pace while feeling like it is going at the speed of light…

Often the empathy and the focus is on the person who is less ready to deal with the situation as a whole let alone the individual experiences. And as often happens, when more attention is paid to them to help them through it there are others who also struggle… they just may not be able to voice their struggles as the focus is on the other person.

In the previous post, the podcast talks about this issue… and the emotions are just as raw as it is for the other person… and yet, if they employ positive emotional intelligence practices… there is a potential for great hurt no matter how hard they try to prevent it… especially if what is happening is not necessarily intentional.

Imagine this scenario… a couple brings into his side a new relationship with another woman who also has a spouse… there is work being done on both sides to make sure this will be a smooth entry… the work is done with a heart to make this work for all… the four of them make honest efforts to work through their feelings of this new dynamic. The two who are forming the new relationship are taking great pains to make each of their partners feel good about the decision to explore poly.

As the day of meeting comes closer plans are made to make it special… to focus on getting to know each other, explore each other, and love each other… and both of their partners begin to struggle. Both are honest about their struggles… and let’s face it… it can be challenging for the male half bringing into the mix another women… and one that he feels strong feelings for… hell even love… but it is also challenging for his secondary’s spouse. And the stress of this struggle can be just as much as the other two, but if it does not directly impact the meeting… that stress remains silent.

As good caring and loving poly folks… he focuses on making things work for his partner… she focuses on her spouse… and then…

The plans that were made for the two of them change… rather dramatically… and because she loves this man who she is entering into a relationship with… she understands the struggle he is having… and she understands the struggle her husband is having… and she is understanding the struggle his partner is having… but she cannot overlook the emotions she feels… like she is a third wheel… an inconvenience to their relationship… and in this case, she is both.

Because of the love she has for her husband and her boyfriend and by extension his girlfriend… it is automatic in this case… because he loves her, she loves her… the new addition to the relationship puts the other two first at the cost of her own heart.

While some will say that is very sweet and necessary to make this work out… some will say it is wrong to put herself on a lesser plane.

Suddenly, all the plans made are altered. Possibly without realizing it the secondary lives up to her name… she is secondary in this relationship and allows her feelings and expectations to take a back seat in order to make others happy… and no matter how willing she is to make this go smoothly… overcompensating and neediness crowds in from the primary partner… and if the new to the relationship partner notices this… and loves him and understands how this has to be difficult for him and wants this to work… she lets this happen without saying anything. Just allows it to happen and take it quietly. And that is not right. But saying something can make the secondary look like a selfish, whiny partner unable to understand her role.

And what is her role?

That is a question that cannot be answered often as convention makes one give the primary a wide berth in having the feelings and rights… the balance is off and yet it should not have been. When looking at the feelings of love… of wanting to be a part of this, one must understand that regardless of the ‘status’ of primary or secondary, each person must matter as much as the other… and that is where it gets tricky.

Love is a crazy thing… it feels so good when it is good… and scares the shit out of you when you feel it so strong… and causes you anxiety when you think you are losing it… the reality is… decisions were made to make the best of the situation for all at a personal cost. And according to the podcast in the previous post… that is where the problem begins. The primary relationship must treat the secondary as an equal… especially if the desire is for this to work out for all. Communication is critical… and equal communication in decisions that effect all three…

That overcompensation, neediness, and jealousy can be quite exhausting. It can make one secure in what they know second guess and overthink and often downplay their right to have these emotions. To read correctly what is going on… and when you venture into a poly relationship and you are not the primary partner… yeah… the hurt is real… emotional intelligence is tough…

In the previous post, the podcast talks about how to avoid this… but it requires all parties to understand that it exists… that sending non-verbal messages that you are encroaching on their man… that while the appearance is that this is welcome the messages of canceled plans, strictly limiting the time that can be spent alone, and other messages such as competing for time and attention… can be hurtful.

When you keep in perspective that you are a secondary partner… you must enter into this with the mindset that there is to be no competition… each has a different role… a different person with different needs, wants and desires… and taking into consideration the level of understanding, growth, security in the relationship and so many other components… and then understand that you are just as important as an individual and as a part of this…

It is challenging to say the least.

Rules, restrictions, jealousy, guilt, fear, making everyone happy, feeling like a third wheel or an inconvenience… yeah, it can be challenging.

How do you resolve a situation like this?

No matter how you approach the topic… do so in love. Remind them you love them and want the best to come out of this relationship and the discussion in front of you all.

The minute details of what went wrong are not necessary. Communication is. Let them know how you are feeling and do so in a way that demonstrates love not hurt or anger. That does not mean you cannot express you are hurt or angry… but to let all parties know that there is some emotions that need addressing.

When defensiveness starts coming into the conversation… stop it as soon as it starts. This is new… this is something that all are learning as you go along. No one has to do it all perfectly… and no one will. Focusing on the details of what is wrong brings in negative energy. Using the positive version of the situation will bring positive energy without diluting the issue with anger, resentment, or guilt.

The primary couple needs to understand that how they include the secondary sets the stage for the success of the poly relationship. Being aware of how their emotions and feelings are manifesting will allow them to adjust to protect the new relationship. That message of love and acceptance will strengthen all of the people involved… even the husband of the secondary.

Reminding the new relationship that these struggles are normal in a new relationship allows for communication to continue and be focused on the love you share rather than what is going wrong…

After all there is a reason why you fell in love with each other…

Just a few lessons learned while navigating poly relationships, and as long as lessons are being learned the love continues to grow.

Muah Sophia

Emotional Intelligence and Ethical Non Monogamy

I want to start this blog defining emotional intelligence and ethical non monogamy.

Emotional intelligence is the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.

Ethical Non Monogamy – Non-monogamy at its most basic is a relationship that involves more than two people. “Ethical” non-monogamy implies that all parties are being treated respectfully, and that enthusiastic consent to the arrangement has been given by everyone involved.

I also want to add the above podcast to this post that is incredible in explaining how to bring a new person into a relationship. I’ve listened to it a couple times and see the truth in what is shared.

When beginning a poly relationship understanding emotional intelligence should be a top priority if it isn’t already something in your tool kit. Not only is it important for yourself but the others in your relationship.

Often in poly relationship as well as swinging there are those who understand and do well with bringing in a new person and those who don’t. Caring about your own thoughts and feelings often takes the bulk of your attention and can be detrimental to the others in the relationship.

It can be challenging for the partner in a relationship who is not getting the new boyfriend or girlfriend. A good deal of time and attention is given to making this person feel “better” about what they are not getting… and often to the detriment of the two seeking the relationship.

One could certainly argue the point that the two seeking the poly relationship are coming out the winners as they are embarking on the new relationship. Sadly that is not always the case.

The person coming in can face a lot of struggles when trying to give space for the couple to work through what this means or how it plays out… often his or her wants and needs are push aside either out of “necessity” or because of a desire to make this easy for everyone while not protecting themselves.

But what about the person who is in the relationship with both… the one who has a commitment with one and building a new relationship with the other? This is where the word challenging is an understatement of the year.

This person loves both… it may not be the same way or to the same degree as one is established and one is starting… but the feelings are there… and complications may arise for this person. How do you bring someone into the relationship and protect the primary and secondary?

Maybe a better question is… how do you protect you?

This is where emotional intelligence comes in to play. By reading the definition again you receive just that… a definition. Not much else… not a list of EI life hacks, not a roadmap for navigating around those who struggle with EI. You may feel you just have to wing it… and that may not work out so well in either the short or long game.

This person in this position has significant challenges facing them and significant opportunities… both revolve around communication. Communication not only about the idea and how its going to work out or between their primary and secondary… but about what they are feeling, what they need and what they would like out of this relationship.

And if you go into a conversation with all partners from a place of emotional intelligence, love and a desire to make it work… it does not mean it will work out quickly or easily… but let the love that is there in the hearts of the others reassure you that it is worth all this…

Muah Sophia

A Trip Back in Time

In 2014 my husband and I were about to celebrate our 1 year of swinging… we really enjoyed the adventure we were on and while we were doing this together… we were not always on the same time table. I tend to move quicker than my husband… it is not without thinking… in fact… many times I overthink things… a lot. You can see that on the blog I am sure… I am an open book… or open blog.

Around the time we were coming up on the 1 year swinger-versary… I fell in love with another swinger. My husband was there and witnessed the ‘falling in love’ literally at the moment it happened. Alex’s (the man I fell in love with) girlfriend was there and witnessed the event too… it was in some ways a surprise that it happened so fast… but we had such a deep connection before we met… that when we met it was instant…

It was a beautiful time… and it was a difficult time.

I had only loved one man before… my husband. I had sex with men before I began dating my husband… but I had never been in love with anyone… lust yes… infatuation yes… love no. My husband was first. Alex was second. So many years in between falling in love with the two men.

And between falling in love with my husband and Alex I had enjoyed the freedom of swinging. Of fucking other men. And women. And orgies. And anonymous sex. And yeah… no thoughts of falling in love. I was in this for the recreational sex.

Have you ever found yourself saying how much you love something and then suddenly it changes? Like you tempted fate to fuck things up… well, falling in love with another swinger was not what I expected to do and it really messed up things…

Not necessarily with me being able to accept falling in love… but with my husband accepting that shit… I mean, I did mention I move at a faster speed than my husband. I knew already and began learning about poly relationships and knew that if I found a person who I loved…

Yeah, just didn’t expect it around my 1 year mark in swinging… and I didn’t expect to feel something just as strong for another man… not my husband and not Alex.

You know when you open yourself up to what your heart can hold… sometimes it is scary and sometimes it is awesome… and sometimes you can move forward and sometimes you have to wait.

And when there is love and sex and other partners thrown into the mix… it can be challenging. For everyone.

I made decisions based on a lot of people’s feelings and often putting mine off to the side. I had to take into consideration my husband, Alex, this other guy… my children, my work, other partners, lust, love… yeah… go ahead and throw in some more shit just to make it totally bonkers.

Through all of this what I wanted I could not obtain. What I felt I needed never came my way. I had to hear all about other people getting what I wanted… and I was struggling with understanding all of these messages and all this drama that Alex was bringing my way…

It came down to making a decision to end things with Alex because of him ‘granting me his permission’ to meet this other guy.

That did not go over very well. At all.

You see, I gave up Alex and I gave up this guy a few months later because I kept getting messages that I needed to wait.

I believe I now totally get that stupid saying… “If you love someone set them free and if they come back to you they were always yours, if they don’t return they never were.”

Five years later I am able to admit that I have loved Daniel since 2014. With a true and deep love. Through all those years… all those things said good and bad… and all those ups and downs… and all the depth of the connection we have… I love him.

When I was trying to understand all of this… how can I love someone – Daniel – prior to meeting him? I realized that I was doing all the same things with Daniel I did with Alex… have real conversations and really get to know someone… with what was said and what was not said.

I am not talking about reading minds… but if you pay attention to what they say and what they don’t say and what they do and don’t do… yeah, you can figure out what is real… and what is hope… what is fantasy.

You can really get to know someone and love someone before you meet them for the first time. Mothers experience this all the time. I did each of the times I was pregnant. You learn about your unborn baby… your love your unborn baby… you name it, you prepare for them to arrive… you hold them close to your heart and you talk to them… share about yourself with them… you connect, you bond… you fall in love… and then one day when all is ready and you are beyond excited… and nervous… and scared… but so ready to finally meet…

You can fall in love before you physically meet… you can connect on a deep enough level that allows these emotions to develop.

Yeah, love… it is there… it is real… it is ready for you to receive.

My husband is much better prepared me loving someone other than him this time around. Luckily he has been able to get to know him from Kasidie… and 5 years does allow someone to feel a bit more comfortable than a few months. Plus I think he actually likes him outside of all the gushing I am doing… he had a front row seat with commentary about things in those 5 years.

So today as I prepared to take off to meet the third man I have ever loved for the first time… I feel very fortunate to have this opportunity… to listen to the messages that changed from “wait” to “now”… and I am so glad those messages changed… and that I waited when instructed to…

And as we met and were in each other’s company… it was incredible to say the least… and to see and feel the truth…

I am very fortunate that I have loved three men in my life… and that my husband understands and supports this… and for Daniel.

I am a very lucky girl…

Muah Sophia

The Adventure Begins

I am one happy swinger… I will be leaving in about 24 hours from now for the airport to head off to Denver… I am going to be meeting a guy I have been in communication with for 5 years. Five years of lusting and other passionate emotions focused on him… sometimes directly and sometimes not so direct… this man… if ever one could say “He will be the death of me”… this is one to say it about… he will be the death of me… one of those hot, wet, messy happily fucked – deaths…

I have all the symptoms of a girl in lust for this man… lack of concentration, constantly thinking of him… racing heart… wet pussy… hard nipples… and that is first thing in the morning… all during the day and the last thought before I go to bed…

I have to say that I am very fortunate to have a great husband who understands just how this guy affects me…

And what is even better… and believe me… I am not sure how this could get better… but it does… we have talked about the whole surrender thing… the deeper connection, the trust, the wanting or better still – the needing to go further than just incredible sex… to go to the level of surrendering sexually to him.

(Big breath here)

To plan to surrender to someone prior to meeting him in person can cause one to second guess the whole topic… can you surrender to someone you haven’t met physically but have 5 years of history already? That is a question I have asked and second guessed my answer all the time… But here is what I found out…

It is worth the risk.

And because I find it worth the risk, it means I have looked at the risks… and there are a bunch of them…

What if this is one-sided?

What if we are – after all this build up – not compatible in person?

What if this ends up being a one and done?

And before I ask any more questions… let me tell you that last one is my biggest fear.

Let’s be honest… if you are thinking about sexually surrendering to a guy you haven’t met yet… but you really feel this is the person to surrender to, there is already an investment of connection and care… and that means that we talked and shared and realized that this is a bit deeper than a quick romp in the hay… and considering that we are meeting for 4 nights… hanging out together all that time… we must feel some level of investing in this time… and well… that should take all the fear and doubts out of the equation…

Should… but damn… we are flawed humans who fear what they should not fear and when emotions get involved and you are prone to overthinking… yeah… this kinda means this is a big deal… as I said… a bit more than just a romp in the hay…

And if you have read my blog a bit… you know that emotional attachments are not something I fear… I have had a variety of partners with varying levels of emotional commitment…

This is a bit different for me… it has been different for me since we first connected… and there is power in that last sentence…

I am going into this trip knowing there is much wrapped up in this… hot sex is pretty much guaranteed… pleasing our partners is such a thrill for us… so there is no doubt the sex will be good… fun… and all that other wet juicy stuff… There is the deeper connection that is a thrill to be a part of… to have conversations about more than a cock sliding into a pussy… to explore and find out some amazing things about each other… to see them in different roles… husband, father… to see their sense of humor, the sweet, sensitive side… the planner… and to realize that there is much in common and so much to discover…

Yep, reading this over and I can see the amount of ‘goo’ all over this post… and yeah… it can be scary… and yet… in this case… it is empowering. To be able to really get to know someone and want to be a part of their life…

If all goes well… and I have no doubt it will… there will be more to this adventure to tell…

And I can’t wait.

Muah Sophia

A Swinging Dream Come True

When you venture into the world of swinging… you can run across people on swinger sites that you really connect with… and enjoy getting to know… and want… oh yes, you want them… to the point where they are all you can fantasize about… and there is one guy… since 2014 I have wanted… and well… I won’t tell you all the details of the path this has taken… because it has been one crazy adventure to get us to this point… and it would take so fucking long to tell the tale… and I am really enjoying the present more than the past… and oh my… I can’t wait for this swinging dream to come true..

And the point we are at… we are a little more than a week away from actually meeting… and I could not be more excited…

And why this is a swinging dream come true… is because until about mid June this year… it never seemed like it had a chance in hell of happening… ever… and I take on all the responsibility for the good, bad and ugly that has happened along the way…

Yet, it is about to happen… and this is a swinging dream come true because of the crazy connection that we have… and it is filled with fun little flirting sessions… differing opinions… and sexual interest and chemistry… it has built and built and OMG it is at a point and time that something has to be done to take this built up sexual chemistry and let it bubble over in fun and sexy ways… and thank goodness this man knows how to make things happen… yep… he wasted no time in getting things going… gotta love a man who does that…

And I am so very certain we will be able find many ways to let it bubble over during the several days we will be together…

So that made me think of this upcoming get together… and all the need that has been building for him… and why this is so fucking exciting for me… and not just because it has taken so damn long to happen…

Do you have a swinging dream you would like to have come true?

I mean more than just a name on a list of people you want to fuck… but someone or something… maybe a fantasy scenario that you really, really, really have been thinking about for a long ass time that you want to see happen?

There is something that I have been focused on in both swinging and non-swinging areas of my life… and it is setting intentions… and let’s be honest… that shit works even if you have a rudimentary understanding of it… and I set an intention last fall that I had kinda forgotten about… well, not forgotten about but rather set the intention and let it manifest how it may… without me coming in and messing it up due to my need to control… and believe me… I have a strong need to control… and because I have given up control of the ‘dream come true’… it is manifesting in a totally exciting way… ones that I would never of thought it could…

Every single day, I am not exaggerating… but every single day something comes about that demonstrates the rightness of this dream coming true… And that sexual energy is rather contagious… it makes others want to share in it and experience it for themselves… and isn’t that the basis of swinging? Sharing the sexy fun… kinda like when someone flirts with you and it opens the flood gates of happy chemicals going through your body…

Let’s be honest… when someone flirts with you, it starts a chemical reaction in your mind and body… and those moments where the chemicals are rushing through your body makes you want to create more opportunities for that to happen again… and again… and again.

I won’t bore you with the science about the chemicals and the reactions and addiction to all that happening… it is real… it is intense… and it is craved over and over…

You know that rush you feel every single time you see their name or number pop up on your phone… if you are a female… your nipples harden… your pussy comes alive and you pray that your pussy only gets a little wet and not full fledged leaving wet spots on your clothes wet… and well we know that for guys… the sight of a cock getting hard is something I absolutely love and to know that you created it… no matter when or where it happened… and who sees it… or how embarrassing it is to them… it is a fucking turn on…

Okay, I just got lost in that image… what a great image to… yeah… I do so love cock shots… oddly enough some women don’t… but to have someone send you a picture while they are out in public… while they are thinking of you and getting hard… damn that is a fucking sexy power trip to go on…

And again… sorry I got off topic… but this guy I am going to meet in less than two weeks… yeah… he is a great distraction…. my mind often wanders back to him throughout the day… [big, happy sigh here].

Where was I… yes, I remember now… A Swinging Dream Come True really only can come true if both parties know it is a dream come true… when both parties understand the intensity of the chemistry… and that doesn’t happen unless you build that chemistry… and let’s be honest… it takes more than just a ‘wanna meet, wanna fuck cuz I think you are hot’ to build that type of heat.

It take some skill… skill you can develop. This guy… who is my swinging dream come true is a true master at flirting… and not just get your panties wet so he can get into your panties flirting… but leaves you feeling good for days flirting… and why is that a big deal?

I think it is a big deal because a good number of swingers like the freedom of the swinger sex… but often crave and want to be more than just a fast fuck… one in a series of other fast fucks… they want to, at least in the moment to matter… a lot. And they don’t recognize the need for what it is… they seek more and more partners rather than a deeper connection with the partner they are with…

And again, that comes up very close to the whole emotions thing most swingers avoid… and I am not sure why… sex is a physical outlet of an emotional and chemical need every person has. When you are honest and invest in the physical, emotional, and chemical pleasure of your partner it intensifies the experience for yourself. This is where your bit of time to get laid in a swinger situation becomes more of a ‘you and me time’… and that designation intensifies the connection and the sexual pleasure… it allows you to make every swinger adventure a dream come true for your partner.

Clear back in 2014, when we first started connecting – and boy did we connect… it was intense for me… and after all this time… when we reconnected it was like no time had passed… but at the same time it was better, deeper, and so much hotter than I could have ever imagined after all that time and shit that passed.

And that is why this is a dream come true for me… in all my swinging experiences I have had… none have had me this excited… none have involved such a deep and hot connection as this one…

And you owe it to yourself to create opportunities to make every swinger experience a dream come true…

Muah Sophia