After I wrote the first post on this topic, I had a conversation with someone who identifies as a straight male. He has no desire to have any type of sex with another man. He has not desired to suck another man’s cock. He has no desire to fuck another guy’s ass or have his ass fucked. He has had a guy suck his cock.
He claims he is totally straight. No bisexuality in his person. He is not interested in sex with another man.
Did you read that last sentence of the first paragraph?
He has had a guy suck his cock.
But he is not bisexual.
He is straight as he did not ask the guy who sucked his cock to suck his cock. He has not given that guy specific permission to suck his cock. His cock just happened to go into this other guy’s mouth and the guy sucked his cock.
There were two women present. That made certain that it was not a bisexual encounter.
I listened/read this story from him… and wondered… did you cum in his mouth or on him or because he sucked your cock?
Well, my wonder got the best of me and I asked him.
Yes, he did cum in the guy’s mouth.
But you are not bisexual?
No he is not bisexual.
But a guy sucked his cock. He stayed hard. He got to the point where he could cum. He did cum. And he came in the guy’s mouth, but he is not a bisexual.
No, he is 100% straight.
Anyone else a bit confused?
Anyone else want to call bullshit?
I swear to all that is good in the world… he had a bisexual encounter. But he denies it.
I mean, he told me the story of a guy sucking his cock and him cumming from the oral sex.
Doesn’t that mean he is bisexual?
I guess not in swingerland.
I asked him point blank, ‘why aren’t you bisexual if you came in the mouth of a guy who was sucking your cock?’
Because I am not sucking him or fucking him and he is not fucking my ass.
Anyone else want to bang their head on the desk.
If you think about this… it is very similar to the mindset of women who think, I am bi because when I am drunk at a swinger event I will kiss a woman and touch her breasts. I won’t have actual sex with her, but will declare my bi-dom because I kissed her and touched her breasts.
I hate to tell you this… I touched a co-worker’s breasts before when she thought she had a lump.
That very act did not make me bisexual… but when you touch another woman’s breast for sexual purposes, drunk or not… that is my friends… bisexuality.
If you have a guy suck your cock, that is bisexuality.
In the world today, there seems to be a huge issue for calling a spade a spade… we seem to want to call it spade-comfortable… but yet, there are people who really struggle with their bisexuality or their gay or lesbian status… I have to wonder if it is a bit insensitive to go around making bisexuality such a light game to play.
Granted in swingerland, sex is open and easy to come by….
Oh wait… it isn’t open… we have to have profile names and hide pictures and hide from neighbors what we do with others…
It isn’t easy because we as swingers make it difficult…
You cannot be straight as a female and still get profiles to want to fuck you… why? Because you have to be a bi female to get laid by a man….
Yep, that is the irony… if you are straight female you can’t fuck a man because him and his wife want a bi girl… but if you are a bi guy, you can’t get man or woman to look at your twice… no matter how hot you are… because you are a bi-guy.
I find it amazing sometimes how ridiculous swingers can be…
Will this ever change?
I am not sure if it will because many swingers are more comfortable complaining about the way things are than changing things… and how hard is it for people to state, I am a straight female and a bi male?
Obviously it is very hard. Even in progressive states that open their arms up to all kinds of unique situations people find themselves in… I am trying to be sensitive to all, don’t want to point out some and leave out some… but there are a few states that are very welcoming to all… not matter their orientation… but not in swingerville.
It is an odd statement to make about an ‘open minded’ lifestyle. But I have seen the same types of behaviors and views in the highly religious segments of society… claim to be one thing and prove to be totally different.
I personally am bisexual. I enjoy having sex with both men and women and when I say sex… I mean there are few things that I do not do with both of them. I enjoy the beauty of sex with men and women.
I am not bi for show or bi to get things started. I am seriously interested in having a MMF with two men who aren’t afraid to be who they are and explore the pleasures found between them and with me of course…
I hope that you will look deeper at the level of honesty you have with yourself and others… be honest about your sexuality. Whether you are straight, bisexual, or fluid depending on where and who…
Take control of your sexuality and you will find it to be a great deal more satisfying when you can be yourself and explore your sexuality to its fullest.