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TMI In Swingerville – Can It Help Or Hurt Your Chances For Getting Laid?

There is a delicate balance between sharing and protecting one’s privacy in swingerville… Sometimes you find yourself sharing nothing but the basics with folks and having a great time and other times you don’t know their last name but you know their entire medical history, childhood, childbirth… and on it goes…

On a site we are on a forum topic asked does TMI keep you from playing with others…

Here is my answer…

I have been thinking of my answer for several days. I was having trouble figuring out how to describe the two main segments of ‘friends’ and ‘playmates’. I have been thinking of the folks we met and how we met them and why we played with them and why we didn’t play with them. 

So when I broke it down… the answer of why we played with them and why we didn’t play with them was very interesting. It did have to do with the attractiveness and being attracted to them to a certain extent… I truly am a person who is more into the whole person – which means personality weighs just as much if not more than looks… 

I then looked at the folks that we became friends with and what happened when the friendship was more important than having sex with them… 

And this caused me to look at ‘in-person’ and ‘on-line’ friends… 

I have had a number of friends that we became friends as we decided to play… and it is tough when you mix the two together… you see as you build friendships you share more… and I seem to be a magnet for folks who want to share with me… 

One example I can give is a female who had some medical problems that caused her to develop infections often. We are talking an eye infection, ear infection, and so on… well being a girl and going on antibiotics… well that generally causes a yeast infection… so we would hear about her latest illnesses and such and then they would want to plan a play date… it was after the round of antibiotics and yeast infection medication… but you know what… I could NOT go down on her… All I could think about was she just had a fucking yeast infection… even though time passed and she was ‘all clear’ it still freaked me the fuck out… all I could think was YUCK! I didn’t want Mike to go down on her or anything either… freaked me out too much! 

Luckily (said tongue in cheek) her hubby make some bad choices with his words in his exuberance after having sex with me that pissed her off and we watched her turn into a jealous and insecure shrew… so it ended a friendship and I was glad to be away from the drama… I couldn’t get myself to want to have sex because of her frequent yeast infections and her personality sealed the rest of the deal… 

Then I thought about some examples of online friends that some I have met and some I haven’t met… and some that I have met shared way to much with me that I can’t fuck them even if I wanted to… the guys shared things with me like I was their sister… some of the girls same thing… like we were sisters… sharing all kinds of things… and yes, I shared all kinds of things as well… because we were not really at that point of ever going to have sex… I knew too much and sometimes that was health issues, family issues… and seen more of their personality that while I liked them… I no longer wanted to fuck them… and I guess when I start to feel that comfortable that I can share shit with you on that level… sex will never happen… you moved to ‘friends only’ zone… 

Sometimes people share their deepest, darkest feelings with me because they read my blog, posts in the forum, or chat with me… then they communicate with me one on one via email or text that shows their insecurities, their jealousies, their good and their bad sides… I don’t want to fuck someone that shares too much with me… not when I became their confidant… share all you want with me about your sexual preferences, what you want to do with me… but leave out the complaining of your wife and kids, or crying about how much you fell in love with the most awesome play partner, or OMG telling me how you suffer with ED…. (yep, that is a really hot turn on for a girl… ) Those things do not make me want to fuck you… sorry but it is the truth… I want a sexual connection… 

A few times I had some guys that overshared on their feelings for me… and we hadn’t had sex yet… WTF???? 

I have a ton of those stories that would fill a book… maybe the title should be something like “Sharing To Much And Scaring The Shit Out Of Swingers”

Someday I may share the “I want to get you pregnant so we can be connected for the rest of our lives” story. He was serious… I still have the texts… LOL

There is a fine line between sharing and being sexy and sharing too much of things you should not share with someone you want to fuck… can’t tell you how many cross that line without noticing the shift in our conversations… moving from sexting to a…. platonic relationship. Very platonic….

Sophia”

What I didn’t touch on in that post was those who won’t tell you a damn thing about themselves and it makes you wonder what they are hiding… especially when they dodge simple questions like… what do you like? Condoms yes? Diseases????

That may be another topic another time… LOL

Hope you are having a wonderful sexually social adventure…

Sophia